5 Signs You’re Settling for Less Than You Deserve


Good evening everyone. It’s been awhile. Today is the beginning of a new week and I decided to share this write up from an amazing speaker. I hope it helps you realize your self worth..

5 Signs You’re Settling for Less Than You Deserve

Make room in your life for what you really deserve instead of settling for a comfortable compromise. Join her on a journey toforgiveness.

By Iyanla Vanzant

Iyanla Vanzant

Photo: Gary Lupton/Studio D

Some years ago, I was shopping and came upon a beautiful red dress. The color, style and length were perfect. But the store didn’t have it in my size. It did, however, have the same dress in navy, which I wasn’t crazy about. Then I noticed a pair of blue shoes nearby that complemented that blue dress. (I didn’t love those, either.) So what did I do? I bought both. I was afraid I wouldn’t find anything else, so I settled. (It won’t surprise you to learn that I’ve never worn the dress or the shoes.)

You’ve probably heard the saying “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t.” Here’s a question: Why put up with any devil? Why not give ourselves only good things? When we believe we cannot have what we desire—when we lack faith in ourselves and in the goodness of life—we settle for less. We decide that whatever is in front of us is better than nothing. But believe me when I tell you that better than nothing isn’t good enough.

I often see people settle for less than they deserve in personal relationships: accepting bad behavior, excusing broken promises, accommodating people who take more than they give. Why? Because doing things we’ve grown accustomed to is familiar, comfortable.

Which is why sometimes it can be tough to gauge whether we’re settling: When we tell ourselves that things are fine, we soon forget that they could be better. Here’s how to know whether you’re putting up with less than you deserve:

  • When you have to work yourself into a state of excitement rather than naturally experiencing joy and passion, you’re probably settling.
  • When you bargain with yourself about what you can do without rather than feeling gratitude for what you already have, you’re probably settling.
  • When your focus is on the time and energy you’ve invested in an endeavor rather than the love, joy and gratification you’ve gained, you’re probably settling.
  • When you’re making excuses about why you should stay put rather than going for what you truly want, you’re probably settling.
  • When you spend more time complaining about what you have than appreciating it, you’re definitely settling.
    But there is a lesson to be learned in everything. When we realize we’ve been settling, we discover what we actually believe. We learn that we perhaps think ourselves undeserving of happiness and find how susceptible we are to outside influences—because often we settle when others convince us it’s the right thing to do. Most important, we learn that we are not standing fully in our truth. Armed with this information, we can make new choices that support our desires—by beginning to believe that we can have what we really want.

Iyanla Vanzant is the host of OWN’s Iyanla: Fix My Life and the author of Peace from Broken Pieces.

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/how-to-tell-if-you-are-settling-iyanla-vanzant#ixzz59XKBziQ9

More to life is here to always impact in every aspect of our lives in a positive way……. No matter how bad your present situation is, always remember that there’s more to life.


Inspirational, Reality., Relationship

Every time I go on Facebook, consciously or unconsciously, I always find myself checking Mr Allison Hyacintho’s page because his very good when it comes to youth and relationship advice. Well if you don’t know him or haven’t read his book or any of his write ups, it’s not too late to do so.

I am sharing Mr Allison’s write up on relationship exercise because I know it would be bad of me if I don’t do that. “I am not a stingy reader”.


1- Find a good time to pray together and share a foundation of faith, whether physically or over the phone. And do not let a day pass without bringing your partners’ loving name up to the Lord in your own quiet devotion. Do not wait until there is a need before you pray.

Pray “Lord, I thank you for the man/woman you have given to me to nurture. Shield him/her away from temptations today, protect his/her heart from evil, fill my partner with your Holy Spirit, and let him/her walk in your presence daily. Amen.”

2- When you get together today turn your phone or data off so you can focus to enjoy each others company without distractions. Quality time is not about the number of hours you spend together, it is what you do with the smallest amount of time you have to share that really matters. So today, keep your hands off your phone, stay off your chats, give Facebook a break and facelove your partner for those precious moments together.

3- Surround yourself with people who have strong moral character and godly values. I’m not just talking about you two hanging out together with friends who add value to your relationship, I’m talking about you building friendship with people who add value to your personal life. Because the more you keep seeking to add value to yourself, the more your relationship will keep growing in value.

4- Compliment each other. Pay attention to the little changes going on in their life. Say nice things about the way they’re dressed and their hair, etc!.. But more importantly, learn to say I love you, more I love you, endless I love you. At the end of every phone call, at the end of every text, just keep saying I love you, no one will beat you. 😝😝😝

5- Wake up and repeat these four exercises EVERY DAY! 😂😂

Enjoy a beautiful day!

#confessionsofagoodman #allisonhyacintho

I might not be able to write always due to my work but I promise to always share important write ups I come across to…..

It’s all about you……. Never forget that.


Inspirational, Reality.

March 8 every year is the day set aside to celebrate women all over the world. International women’s day commemorates the movement for women’s demand for an end to violence against women, equality in the workplace and proper respect for the option and views of women.

Things to do to celebrate international women’s day.

  1. Taking a bold step and make ground breaking decisions that are effective. Let go of the fear you have as a woman.
  2. Encourage you to your wives, sisters, daughters and female friends..
  3. Celebrate women in films. (tell stories of successful women)
  4. Celebrate successful women such as the followings:

Nwanyeruwa is the woman who instigated a short war that is often referred to as the first major challenge to British authority in West Africa during the colonial period. Some call it the Aba women’s riots and some call it the Women’s War.

Amina (also Aminatu; d. 1610) was a HausaMuslim warrior queen of Zazzau (now Zaria), in what is now north west Nigeria. She is the subject of many legends, but is believed by historians to have been a real ruler.

Chief Funmilayo Ransome Kuti (25 October 1900 – 13 April 1978) was a teacher, political campaigner, women’s rights activist and traditional aristocrat in Nigeria. She served with distinction as one of the most prominent leaders of her generation. She was also the first woman in the country to drive a car. Ransome-Kuti’s political activism led to her being described as the doyen of female rights in Nigeria, as well as to her being regarded as “The Mother of Africa.

Margaret Ekpo (June 27, 1914 – September 21, 2006) was a Nigerian women’s rights activist and social mobilizer who was a pioneering female politician in the country’s First Republic and a leading member of a class of traditional Nigerian women activists, many of whom rallied women beyond notions of ethnic solidarity.

Azeezat Oshoala is a Nigerian female footballer who currently plays for Chinese side Dalian Quanjian F.C. She has represented Nigeria in several football tournaments. She was named ‘Best player’ at the 2014 FIFA U-20 Women’s World Cup and 2014 African Women’s Championship.

Blessing Okagbare is an award winning Nigerian athlete. She beat Usain Bolt, to the 2016 Guinness world records feat as the athlete with the most diamond league appearances. Okagbare holds the women’s 100 metres Commonwealth Games record for the fastest time at 10.85 seconds.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is currently the face of Nigerian literature. She is a fierce advocate for gender equality. Adichie has won numerous literary awards including the National Book Critics Circle Award for Fiction.

This is just to mention but a few of both old and modern women in Nigeria 🇳🇬 that we need to emulate their strength and boldness to do great things….

We need to learn how to appreciate all the women around us. They do a lot without getting any appreciation. Not that they do it for the appreciation but a little “Thank you, sorry and I love you won’t hurt”

Today we celebrate international women’s day…
Today I support the world to fight for the rights of women. To demand for the end of violence against women and sexual harassment. For equality in workplace and more representation in positions of power.
Today is a day to appreciate all women.
I am strong, I am bold and I am proud to be a woman.
My name is Abazuom Precious

“We cannot all succeed when half of us are held back” Malaga Yousafzai..

Happy international women’s day.

Picture source: A painting by Jake Solo.


Inspirational, Reality., Relationship

I’m not perfect
Just perfectly flawed,
With broken edges
That are curved & broad.
I’ve been ripped apart
Only to be stitched,
Sewn with resilience
And a little added bitch.
I’m a cocktail of disaster
A messed up recipe,
With a teaspoon of spice
And a dash of profanity.
I’m a hurricane
So beautiful to view,
Just not a storm
To get sucked into.
With a life forged
Full of rejection
I became perfect
A perfect imperfection


Source: Perfect imperfection.

I saw this beautiful poem on a friend’s blog and decided to share it with everyone. I love it because the writer knows she’s not perfect and decided to own her imperfections.

We all need to learn from this poem to be proud of who we are. You can only work on changing the bad things about you not because you want to impress anyone but because you know it’s the right thing to do… Let’s not forget this month of March is a month of “self forgiveness”. Realize your mistakes, own your past, forgive yourself and try to move own.

Every single thing you have been through is part of live molding you to become who you are expected to be.

It’s all about you….. Never forget that.


Reality., Relationship, Uncategorized

I love the way you kiss my skin.
The after effect of your touch is amazing.
The glow you give me.
An Ebony Queen you make me.
You bloom and lay low.
Giving the sea an orange bow.
Sometimes you hurt me till I cry.
Because when I see you,I can’t help but pry.
To me,throughout the year,you awesome.
I marvel at your beauty,I love you SUN🌞

Poem by :Ria💋 (Akwaji Maria)

It’s a beautiful Saturday and a good day to enjoy the sun….. We are angry about the weather in Nigeria. While someone somewhere is praying to have a little sun.

It’s another day for someone’s celebration of wedding, birthday, engagement or random celebration somewhere especially in Lagos. I love the Yoruba spirit of celebration….. Almost every Saturday is “owanbe”. Today is a day to admire the beauty of the ☀.

Have a wonderful and amazing weekend…..


Inspirational, Reality.


I would be sharing an extract from the book I’m currently reading titled “After by Anna Todd” on watt pad.

“People spend their entire lives making mistakes and asking for forgiveness, it is the natural cycle of mankind. It’s always been that way and every single religion has a tale of betrayal and forgiveness. Judas Iscariot is the most famous. Judas who was one of Jesus’s twelve disciples betrayed him for only thirty silver coin.

Jesus of course forgave him, that is the essence behind Jesus of Nazareth. “Forgiveness”. It is believed that Judas couldn’t live with the betrayal he had committed so he hung himself, the moral here being that even though he was forgiven by Jesus he was never able to forgive himself.

While he is worse, not being forgiven by the one you betray, whether it’s God, or someone else or not being able to forgive yourself? ”

I decided to share this so that we can all evaluate ourselves and see that no matter what we have done in life, we need to forgive ourselves….

On this note, I say a big happy new month to everyone.. Let this month be a month of forgiveness.

” I can say from experience, forgiving yourself for a mistake is one of the hardest things in life but it is necessary if you want to move forward “

Picture source : Google.


Reality., Relationship

It would have been better if I had the guts to tell you how I felt
I shouldn’t have waited all these time
Now you will never be mine
Cos your hers

Whenever I saw you I felt so shy to approach you
When I came close I felt so shy to talk to you
I finally spoke to you but I still couldn’t tell you
How I felt

We became friends just so I could be close to you
But that was wrong because you couldn’t see my true feelings
I wanted you all of you but now your gone
You will never be mine

I hated seeing you two together
I wanted it to be me But you choose her
You made me your best man
Now your forever gone

I shouldn’t have waited
Now I get no chance to show you how I felt
I shouldn’t have kept quiet
Thought I had all the time
Thought you could see through me
But now I see different
Am only going to be that
Best friend forever
It shouldn’t have been so.

It’s a love triangle poem. I wonder how many of us had been and still are in such a situation….. I think we should learn to speak out our mind we never can tell how it might turn out to be……. From love to “friend Zone”.

I would like to hear your opinion of what you would do if you find yourself in this situation be you a man or a woman.

Picture gotten from Google from one of my favorite Bollywood movie……..

Benefits of Apple Cider Vinegar


Apple Cider Vinegar has many benefits regarding your hair, skin and health. Apple Cider Vinegar helps the most with your body’s need and capability to absorb nutrients easier. It is made up of amino acids as well as antioxidants to help promote healthy hair and skin. ACV is also known for reducing blood pressure, migraines, nausea, helps kill certain cancer cells, helps joint pain, helps prevent acne as well regualtes the pH in you body. Apple Cider Vinegar is simply crushing apples and squeezing out all of the extra liquid.


Add 1 half apple cider vinegar and the other half water through your hair (1-3 tablespoons). Rinse after 2-3 minutes. You will notice results in a few weeks. Also combining a little apple cider vinegar in your condition helps as well. It helps get rid of all the extra build of with oils that you don’t need.



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In the midst of everything that has been happening in my country Nigeria, ranging from the issues of the cattle herds men to the issue of the snake 🐍 that swallowed 36million naira in jamb office. Well sometimes I wonder if “they” think we Nigerians are stupid. But that’s a topic for another day. Today it’s all about love and lovers. So let’s do that.

Valentine’s Day is a day that you either love or you hate. For those of us who have a special someone, it can be a day that is filled with gestures of love and kindness.

Most times I feel “valentine ♥” is awfully exaggerated. A lot good loving things happen don’t get me wrong but so many other negative things go down. Most people take advantage of this day in a bad way. Most don’t care, while the others, see it just like any other day. I feel this day goes beyond expressing love to your 👫, going for dinner, eating a chocolates or even having sex. But who am I? It’s just my opinion.

But what does Valentine’s Day really mean to you?

For some, it means a day to show the people in your life who you really care about that you love them. It’s not about gifts or expensive dinners or money—-it’s the thought that we have some pretty special people in our life and we are pretty darned lucky to have them.

So regardless if you are single, or in a happy relationship, this day is focused on showing love, to others and to yourself.

How did you spend your day?

Well for me, I started my day by going for morning mass. Yes today is also ash Wednesday and I am a proud Catholic. After mass, I did my little chores, had breakfast and spent hours baby sitting my neighbor’s amazing beautiful daughters (twins). Well after that, I basically did my writings and responded to some emails.

But I got a phone call from someone special and I was happy. I also got series of messages from friends and cousins and I appreciate them all and I love them all…

So my day was typically boring but I know most of you had a blast and sharing would be a very good valentine gift to me and other readers who had no one to spend the say with or those of us who our partners where very far from us. Let’s not forget those who are single at this period and those who had no time to do anything for themselves because of their busy work schedule.

Let’s Talk……

What exactly do you think valentine is all about?

What’s the best way to celebrate valentine?

For the ladies, how best do you wish your dream Val day could go?

How many of us think Val’s day goes beyond gifts , dinner and sex?

Tell us if you don’t mind how you spent your day..

It’s all about love and relationship today…….

I wish everyone today a beautiful and wonderful valentine.


Everyday should be a day to celebrate love.. We don’t need to only show or express it because it’s February 14…..

Do something special not just for your partners but for yourself. Treat yourself special today.

# self-love#

It’s all about you…. Never forget that…..


Inspirational, Reality.

Happy new month.. It’s gradually beginning to look like I say happy new month or happy new year a week late. Well, I began my month with a very bad malaria. I can’t remember the last time I was this sick to the extent I was given an 💉 for my fever.. But thank God finally I’m supper better now.

Today I am sharing another poem that we need to keep in mind as we prepare for the up coming 2019 election.


Hear me and hear me right.
The talking drum has decided to speak.
We all have to listen.

We choose him because we trusted him
Our trust he has broken for our good or his?
Does he not see what the masses are going through?
Or has he turned blind as well as deaf?

They come out with sweet dreams only to turn out bitter
I don’t like bitter sweet things
Bitter when tasted and sweet when seen
Majority suffer while a few sing of his praises.

Soon it would be time to choose again
The right man I hope this time
It’s time we choose wisely
And stop selling our future for rice, tomatoes and wrappers

We no longer want old foolish men
Men with no wisdom
Not all old are wise and not all young are foolish

Enough is enough for the wise
For we no longer want experience as our teacher
He who has ears let him hear…………

Conga has spoken
Am only but a drummer girl

Which reminds me, if you are in Nigeria and you are 18 and above and you still don’t have your permanent voters 💳, then you are not serious..

We are quick to criticize the government or the person in power but we won’t move an inch to play our own part in selecting the best leader of your choice… To be totally sincere, I don’t have mine but I have started working on getting it. At least that’s a step. Let’s all go out there and do the right thing. Find out the closest unit to you and get your PVC or get yours transferred if you did it in another state.

Let’s not forget that it’s all about us, our country 🇳🇬 and our future.. Together we can make it.