So yesterday I finally finished designing my blog. I thought of what would be my first post. After seeing the news about the 22 years old lady that was burnt to death by her ex boyfriend, I decided it was time I did a research on domestic violence and write on it. This will help all of us prevent such an experience.
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence, is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault and / or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychology violence and emotional abuse.
Domestic violence violence has become an epidemic spreading through our community, affecting every one in four women regardless of age and economic status.
Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death. The devastating physical, emotional, and psychological consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and Last a lifetime.
Some abusers at the beginning may seem wonderful and perfect, but with time, you would start to notice their aggressive and controlling nature. Apologizing after the abuse is a tactic they try to import. They tend to apologize when the did is already done. Abuses promise their partners that it would never happen again but the truth is violence and control will always intensify over time.
Most of us women this warning signs but we over look them. Below are some early signs of an abuser :
: Telling the victim that they can never do anything right.
:Accusing the victim of cheating
: Embarrassing or shaming the victim
: Controlling every penny spent in the household.
: Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do.
: preventing the victim from making their own decisions.
: Destroying the victims property.
Domestic violence, doesn’t always end when the victim escapes the abuser, tries to terminate the relationship( in the case of the 22 years old lady killed by her ex), or seeks help. In most cases, the abuser continues to stalk, harass, threaten the victim even after the victim escapes…
When we notice the above signs of an abuser or more at an early stage of our relationship or marriage, it’s better to take bow when it’s still early than to keep hoping that one day he would change. #SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE #
I hope my write up saves some one from an impending abusive relationship or marriage. I would be writing a part 2 on domestic violence soon, but this time it would be on the “EFFECT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON CHILDREN”.