Unicef reported in 2015 that one in four girls, one in ten boys are sexually abused before the age 18.. It’s been proven that 6 out of 10 children experience emotional, physical or sexual abuse before 18.
Child abuse is more pervasive in our society than we care to admit. The fact that we don’t talk about this, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
What is child sexual abuse?
Forms of child sexual abuse include engaging in sexual activities with a child (whether by asking or pressuring, or by other means). Child sexual abuse can occur in a variety of settings, including home, school, or work (in places where child labor is common).
It’s so hard for most of our parents to believe that we have been sexually abused. Most times these abused children find it hard to tell their parents about this because either their parents are always busy, never listens, never believe or even blames them that they are the course of the abuse..
Most parents, contribute to the silence of this children because despite being told, they continue to live in self doubt. They end up telling the child “go nothing happened to you. It’s just your imagination”. I did this research and am writing this to help those already affected to open up and for our parents to help prevent this from occurring by constantly listening to their children, and by constantly monitoring the change in behavior of their children.
Below are some signs that may indicate a child is been sexually abused.
: Children might suddenly avoid being alone with people such as family members or friends.
: They could seem frightened of a particular person or reluctant to socialize with them. When a parent sees this, you are supposed to start asking questions. Being suspicious is not a problem as long as you don’t accuse anyone without proof.
: When a child starts showing sexual behaviors that’s inappropriate for their age, with toys or objects or with friends.
: Nightmare, sleeping problems. (finding it hard to sleep or finding it hard to fall asleep).
: Personality changes, seeming insecure.
: Unaccountable dear of a particular place or persons.
: Outburst of anger.
: Changes in eating habits.
: Physical signs – bruises around genitals, soreness or sexually transmitted diseases.
: Suddenly becoming secretive.
If you’re too disapproving or imply that sex shouldn’t be spoken about then your child may be less likely to come to you with questions or worries they might have.
Of course, this won’t be easy for everyone, especially if your child behavior seems shocking or morally wrong to you, but try to be calm. Your body language and tone can make a difference. The way you react can affect how comfortable your child will feel about talking to you about these things in the future.
Note: don’t lecture your child but talk together and also listen. Try to have short, informal chats now and again.
Use every day situation to strike up the conversation. Use humor if it makes it easier.
Yes, “I know it’s hard to read about, it’s hard to talk about, but it’s so much harder to live through it”. If we learn to talk about child abuse enough, we can ensure that many others won’t have to experience it. For those of us that has been suffered from such abuse, it’s never too late to begin to heal.
Those that have suffered through this, it’s not easy to share or talk to someone, but I want to remind us that talking helps us heal fast. Seek medical and psychological assistance for both the child and your self (parents or guardian).
I wanted to share this post because I know it will save someone from been abused, and I know to an extent, it will help our parents become more observant.
Sometimes, this threat of abuse could be from an outsider. If it’s, the child will become hyper arousal and will alert the caregiver by crying. If the threat is by a caregiver or close family, the child will exhibit trates of dissociation.
Some children tend to ” freeze” ( pretending the person giving the threat doesn’t exist) when ever the abuser’s is around.
I would soon post a part 2 on sexual abuse on children, explaining more on ways children create ways of copying with the abuse.
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