Good evening everyone. Today am going to share with you a post a friend posted on my group page. After reading the post below, I would like to hear what your opinion about it.
“A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while men do not have sex with emotions, women can’t have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.
Most women who take their husbands to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men. A non cheating woman would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless the man exceedingly abuses her physically and emotionally to the point of killing her.
Men don’t equate sex with love. A man can have sex with another woman but still doesn’t love her. That’s why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships as they are just being used by those married men. But once a married woman starts sleeping with you, she can even narrates some hidden secretes concerning her husband and she will even tell you why she hates him (her husband). She can even accept poison from you to eliminate her husband.
For men, sex and love are two different things. But for women, sex and love are one and the same things. For men, sex comes first before love (infatuation), but for women love comes first before sex (true love). Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man/men, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she gives you.
The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn’t mean he has stopped loving you. But I can’t say the same for women. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never live the same again. And she can even kill her husband once she starts cheating on him.
If your wife starts cheating, you should be a lucky man not to die in less than 10 years. It has been found that 95% of women who cheat wish their husbands dead. That is the main reason why it is dangerous for a man to continue staying with a wife who cheats on him. That is why is now encouraged everywhere in the world including in the Bible, for a man to divorce his wife only once she starts cheating on him. Cheating women are more deadly to husbands than ordinarily criminals or weapons. There are many cheating women in the world who invite criminals to break into her house at night only to come and eliminate her man and police officers plus relatives can’t detect this as the same woman tend to moan more than any person at the funeral so as to attract sympathy and hide her evil acts.
That’s why psychologists discourage women,more than men, from cheating. Women can’t handle the emotional conflict that comes with cheating.
That’s the reason an observant and intelligent man will notice that his wife has started cheating on him once he starts doing it because most women tend to lose respect to their husbands and try to avoid sex with them in most times.
Cheating Women will even be giving excuses for not wanting to have sex with their husbands. Study has revealed that nearly 90% of women who cheat find it hard to have enjoyable sex with their husbands, again an intelligent man will detect this once his wife’s behavior with regard to sex start changing. But a dull man can never detect this and always tolerate fake excuses from his cheating wife until he is completely eliminated.
Women can’t cheat on their partners with people they are not emotionally involved with. They attach emotions to everything. That’s why you can’t always trust their judgment. When a joke is cracked,most women who laugh are not laughing because the joke is funny but because they like the person who cracked the joke. If they don’t like you, no matter how funny your joke may be, they won’t laugh, but when a man laughs at a joke, it’s because the joke is funny, not because he likes the comedian. Men are not always sentimental and emotionally involved.
Study has shown that every relationship begins to flounder once a woman starts cheating. There are many men who cheat on their partners but still show them true love. But it is very hard to find a relationship in which a woman is cheating and things still remain the same.
I repeat, nearly 100% of cheating women wish their husbands quick death or divorce to have unlimited sex freedom while nearly 100% of cheating men can’t wish their wives quick death or divorce. That is why most men cant allow their wives to be physically or verbally abused by their girlfriends. Men will always stand for their wives.
A man would cheat but still love and respect his wife, but the opposite is true with cheating women. Once your wife starts sleeping with other men/man, just know that your death is near.“
R.M – Professor of Psychology
Ohio State University – USA
Well this was my response ” As for me, permit me to use the word *bullshit* why would you even need to cheat? Is your wife or girlfriend not enough for you? Why justify yourself in the name of *you can have sex without falling in love or being in love with the woman * I think men just need to grow up and stop giving excuses like this.. It’s true that no one is a saint but don’t leave in continuous mistake and still have the guts to give stupid excuses.
It can be true that women equate sex with emotions. That’s why it’s advised that you don’t mess with a woman’s heart. I don’t subscribe to cheating, I don’t care what the reason was… As much as being faithful is something hard for some people to do, we all just have to keep trying to make our marriages and relationship more exciting every day…
I know we are entitled to our opinion but it baffles me why a man would cheat. Does he think telling his partner “it was just sex, makes it better or less hurtful?” A lot of woman have lost their lives not just their homes to their husband unfaithfulness.. Most men think treating your wife as a queen while you keep a mistress would make it look nice “she won’t know they would say to themselves” It’s just sex, is the beginning of a disaster in marriage.. I know of a woman who almost ran mad as a result of her husband infidelity… It started with *just sex* until the mistress decided to get pregnant… Right now this woman leaves on constant medication just to be a little balanced psychologically.
A friend of mine Valeria, shared her view on the above post “A cheat is a cheat irrespective of whatever you qualify it with… if you cheat as a man and tell me you still love me then you shouldn’t be Angry when I cheat and plot to kill you… there should never be a reason to cheat… be repentant when you cheat and ask for forgiveness… don’t come kneel before me and tell me you were not emotionally attached to her…. without being a cheat I can sue my husband for divorce if I see we have lost it… not because I want to run to another man… but because I dnt want to be lied to… I dnt want to loose my peace because of a husband… that’s why women die in marriage because of this notion that their husband loves them but cheats because he’s a man….”
To me, instead of becoming a cheat, why not spiece up your marriage. If your problem is the sex, teach your partner whst ever you think can make it better… Talk about things, go on dates, do fun and exciting things with your partner…… If you haven’t read or have forgotten about my post on “How to keep your love live alive after having children”, go back and read it.. You would learn a lot. No one is above learning. Don’t let someone else destroy your family..
Let’s hear your take on this……
It’s all about you……..Never forget that.