Benefits of Apple Cider Vinegar


Apple Cider Vinegar has many benefits regarding your hair, skin and health. Apple Cider Vinegar helps the most with your body’s need and capability to absorb nutrients easier. It is made up of amino acids as well as antioxidants to help promote healthy hair and skin. ACV is also known for reducing blood pressure, migraines, nausea, helps kill certain cancer cells, helps joint pain, helps prevent acne as well regualtes the pH in you body. Apple Cider Vinegar is simply crushing apples and squeezing out all of the extra liquid.


Add 1 half apple cider vinegar and the other half water through your hair (1-3 tablespoons). Rinse after 2-3 minutes. You will notice results in a few weeks. Also combining a little apple cider vinegar in your condition helps as well. It helps get rid of all the extra build of with oils that you don’t need.



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Health, Reality., Relationship

I know this post might be very lengthy to read but I beg that you take your time and read not forgetting to share it because you can never tell who you might be saving. 

The fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance or activity. 

The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit – forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that is cessation causes severe trauma. 

A lot of us think addiction is only related to drugs and alcohol. But the truth is we have other things anyone can be addicted to. Examples are : Games, pornography, Sex, social media to mention but a few. 

Today I decided to talk about one aspect of the above mentioned types of addiction that most people don’t even realize they have while those who know, don’t think they need help. Sexual addiction is my main focus for the day. Am going to share a little research I did on it and put down the different websites as usual so you can check it out to get more information. 

What is sexual addiction? 
Sexual addiction is a condition in which an individual cannot manage their sexual behavior. Persistent sexual thoughts affect their ability to work, maintain relationships, and fulfil their daily activities.

Other terms for sexual addiction are sexual dependency, hypersexuality, and compulsive sexual behavior. It is also known as nymphomania in females and satyriasis in men.

Research also has found that sex addicts often come from dysfunctional families and are more likely than non-sex addicts to have been abused. One study found that 82 percent of sex addicts reported being sexually abused as children. Sex addicts often describe their parents as rigid, distant and uncaring. These families, including the addicts themselves, are more likely to be substance abusers. One study found that 80 percent of recovering sex addicts report some type of addiction in their families of origin.

While sexual addiction shares some features with substance addiction, the person is addicted to an activity, not a substance. Treatment may help, but without treatment, it may get worse.

Fast facts on sexual addiction Sexual addiction prevents people from managing their sexual behavior. Why it happens is unclear. It can have a severe impact on a person’s life, but key bodies, such as the American Psychological Association (APA), have not yet established it as a diagnosable condition. Typical behaviors include compulsive masturbation, persistent use of pornography, exhibitionism, voyeurism, extreme acts of lewd sex, and the failure to resist sexual impulses. Treatment centers and self-help groups can help with sexual addiction.What Are the Different Types of Sexual Addictions?There are no distinct categories, but sexual addictions can come in different forms, including addiction to: Pornography, Prostitution,Masturbation or fantasy, Sadistic or masochisticbehavior, Exhibition/Voyeurism, Other excessive sexual pursuits.Emotional Symptoms of Sex AddictionIf you or someone you love suffers from a sex addiction, you might not have healthy boundaries. If your husband is addicted to pornor sex, you may feel alienated, isolated, depressed, angry, or humiliated and need treatment yourself. If you are addicted to sex, you might become easily involved with people sexually or emotionally regardless of how well you know them, according to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Because most sex addicts fear being abandoned, they might stay in relationships that aren’t healthy, or they may jump from relationship to relationship. When alone, they might feel empty or incomplete. They might also sexualize feelings like guilt, loneliness or fear.

Physical Symptoms of Sex Addiction

Although a sex addiction or pornography addiction can create many physical side effects, few physical symptoms of this disorder exist. However, the most common physical sex addict symptoms you might notice from having a sexual addiction is feeling immobilized due to sexual or emotional obsessions.

How do you know if you are an addict? 

It is best to consult with a healthcare professional for proper evaluation of your sex addiction, however, you may also want to look out for the following signs:

  • You feel powerless over how you act sexually.
  • Your sexual choices are making your life unmanageable.
  • You feel shame, embarrassment or even self-loathing over your sexual acts.
  • You promise yourself you’ll change, but fail to keep those promises.
  • You’re so preoccupied with sex it becomes like a ritual to you.

Get Help For Sex Addiction

It is important to understand that although sex and porn addiction are not “formally” diagnosable, these conditions exist and often present with very adverse consequences and high levels of distress, guilt, and emotional turmoil. If you can relate to the symptoms mentioned above, or know somebody who meets these criteria, do not hesitate to ask for help.

Some treatment options include:

  • Individual therapy – 30-60 minute sessions with a certified mental health professional, focused on your sexually compulsive behaviors and any co-occurring disorders.
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – Focuses on the idea that our behaviors, emotions, and thoughts are all interrelated and works to change negative thoughts to positive thoughts and self-talk.
  • Psychodynamic therapy – Built around the premise that unconscious memories and conflicts affect our behavior, Psychodynamic therapy uncovers early childhood influencers of current habits or present factors that contribute to the current sex addiction.
  • Dialectical-Behavioral Therapy (DBT) – Contains four components: skills training group, individual treatment, DBT phone coaching, and consultation team and these four components are designed to teach four skills: mindfulness, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, and emotion regulation.
  • Group therapy – Led by qualified therapists, group therapy is designed to replace negative and detrimental behaviors with pro-social and positive ones. It provides the addict with assurance that he or she is not alone in his or her experiences.
  • Couple’s counseling or Marriage counseling – This can be very beneficial for the sex addict and his or her partner. Couple’s counseling can help to improve communication skills, trust, and healthy sexual functioning between partners.
  • 12-step recovery – Sex Addicts Anonymous imitates the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous and is a group-based model focused on acknowledging one’s powerlessness and willingness to live a life free of addiction.
  • Inpatient therapy – There are some inpatient recovery centers designed to treat sex and porn addiction. The patient resides at the recovery facility for the duration of treatment so that he or she can focus on the healing process without the distractions and temptations of everyday life.

What Causes an Addiction to Sex?

Research has shown that there are a lot of causes of sexual addiction ranging from biological, physiological and social. Check ( for more details. I would also add sexual abuse. Sexual abuse plays an important role in the life of the abused. Most sexual abused persons either hate sex or become an addict for sex. 

I know most people find it difficult to talk about sex but sex addiction is a very silent problem “sickness” that needs to be addressed and I hope those suffering from this problem find the right people to talk to and help them find solutions. 

More to life is here to help solve our unspoken problems that no one dares to speak about. 

It’s all about you…. Never forget that. 


Cambridge English Dictionary


Health, Inspirational

Good day everyone…. It’s a beautiful Friday. The beginning of a great weekend. This morning I smelt and felt Christmas am sure a lot of us are beginning to feel it to. .. I really can’t wait for it. 

My topic today is really an important one. Very important and can’t be neglected. What is depression? What causes it and how can we help? 

Most people feel sad or depressed at times. It’s a normal reaction to loss or life’s struggles.

But when intense sadness — including feeling helpless, hopeless, and worthless — lasts for many days to weeks and keeps you from living your life, it may be something more than sadness. You could have clinical depression — a treatable medical condition.

What Is Depression?

Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home.

According to the DSM-5, a manual doctors use to diagnose mental disorders, you havedepression when you have five or more of these symptoms for at least 2 weeks:

  • Feeling sad or having a depressed mood
  • You feel tired or have a lack of energy almost every day.
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
  • Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting
  • Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Loss of energy or increased fatigue
  • Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., hand-wringing or pacing) or slowed movements and speech (actions observable by others)
  • Feeling worthless or guilty
  • Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions
  • Thoughts of death or suicide
  • You have a hard time focusing, remembering details. 

Symptoms must last at least two weeks for a diagnosis of depression. While these symptoms are common, not everyone with depression will have the same ones. How severe they are, how often they happen, and how long they last can vary.

Your symptoms may also happen in patterns. For example, depression may come with a change in seasons (a condition formerly calledseasonal affective disorder

Depression Is Different From Sadness or Grief/Bereavement

The death of a loved one, loss of a job or the ending of a relationship are difficult experiences for a person to endure. It is normal for feelings of sadness or grief to develop in response to such situations. Those experiencing loss often might describe themselves as being “depressed.”

But being sad is not the same as having depression. The grieving process is natural and unique to each individual and shares some of the same features of depression. Both grief and depression may involve intense sadness and withdrawal from usual activities. They are also different in important ways:

  • In grief, painful feelings come in waves, often intermixed with positive memories of the deceased. In major depression, mood and/or interest (pleasure) are decreased for most of two weeks.
  • In grief, self-esteem is usually maintained. In major depression, feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing are common.
  • For some people, the death of a loved one can bring on major depression. Losing a job or being a victim of a physical assault or a major disaster can lead to depression for some people. When grief and depression co-exist, the grief is more severe and lasts longer than grief without depression. Despite some overlap between grief and depression, they are different. Distinguishing between them can help people get the help, support or treatment they need.

How Is Depression Treated?

Depression is among the most treatable of mental disorders. Between 80 percent and 90 percent of people with depression eventually respond well to treatment. Almost all patients gain some relief from their symptoms.

Before a diagnosis or treatment, a health professional should conduct a thorough diagnostic evaluation, including an interview and possibly a physical examination. In some cases, a blood test might be done to make sure the depression is not due to a medical condition like a thyroid problem. The evaluation is to identify specific symptoms, medical and family history, cultural factors and environmental factors to arrive at a diagnosis and plan a course of action.

Medication: Brain chemistry may contribute to an individual’s depression and may factor into their treatment. For this reason, antidepressants might be prescribed to help modify one’s brain chemistry. These medications are not sedatives, “uppers” or tranquilizers. They are not habit-forming. Generally antidepressant medications have no stimulating effect on people not experiencing depression.

Antidepressants may produce some improvement within the first week or two of use. Full benefits may not be seen for two to three months. If a patient feels little or no improvement after several weeks, his or her psychiatrist can alter the dose of the medication or add or substitute another antidepressant. In some situations other psychotropic medications may be helpful. It is important to let your doctor know if a medication does not work or if you experience side effects.

Psychiatrists usually recommend that patients continue to take medication for six or more months after symptoms have improved. Longer-term maintenance treatment may be suggested to decrease the risk of future episodes for certain people at high risk.

Psychotherapy: Psychotherapy, or “talk therapy,” is sometimes used alone for treatment of mild depression; for moderate to severe depression, psychotherapy is often used in along with antidepressant medications. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) has been found to be effective in treating depression. CBT is a form of therapy focused on the present and problem solving. CBT helps a person to recognize distorted thinking and then change behaviors and thinking.

Psychotherapy may involve only the individual, but it can include others. For example, family or couples therapy can help address issues within these close relationships. Group therapy involves people with similar illnesses.

Depending on the severity of the depression, treatment can take a few weeks or much longer. In many cases, significant improvement can be made in 10 to 15 sessions.

Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT) is a medical treatment most commonly used for patients with severe major depression or bipolar disorder who have not responded to other treatments. It involves a brief electrical stimulation of the brain while the patient is under anesthesia. A patient typically receives ECT two to three times a week for a total of six to 12 treatments. ECT has been used since the 1940s, and many years of research have led to major improvements. It is usually managed by a team of trained medical professionals including a psychiatrist, an anesthesiologist and a nurse or physician assistant.

The truth is, a lot of us are going through depression and we don’t know. We only know that we feel different and when asked, we can’t just explain. I know the economic situation and our immediate problem and that of our families, for some people constantly weighs them down and suicide becomes an option. 

We are cope with things differently. For me, truth be told I found out am worrying and thinking about a lot of things. I remember for a while I could barely sleep. When ever I closed my eyes to sleep, my mind and my brain kept being active. As usual, I did a lot of research to find out what was wrong with me. Then I realized I was just stressed over nothing. I was just thinking of different solutions for problems that were never there. Finally I turned to God. Because I was scared of getting depressed. My mum was constantly worried. 

I decided to research and write on this because of the rate of suicide recorded all over the world. In Nigeria earlier this year, the report of suicides were so high and scary….. For me, death is not a solution. When I heard of the man who committed suicide in Kogi state because of the financial issues he was going through, I was so sad. This man and his wife had been looking for a child for years and now they had twins, he won’t be there to enjoy them. He has not been paid his salary for the past 11 months and couldn’t pay for his wife medical bills so she could be discharged. I wonder what he must have been thinking before resulting to suicide. Now his dead, what happens to his wife and children? Where does the help come from? 

Rev. Mrs Nches Iredu, founder of sisters fellowship international, once wrote “if you found yourself depressed today, don’t give room to the devil through depression any longer. Don’t continue to analyze it, don’t dwell on it, don’t feed on it, and don’t give in to it! An important aspect of overcoming depression is, getting up and forcing yourself to throw it off whether you feel like it or not. As difficult as it may be, decide to be done with it! Throw it off and choose to take one small step towards a new life.just taking this first step could help you enjoy life Betty than you have in weeks”.

I know it’s not easy…. But we all have to find away to help each other on life… Start by praying and then find someone you can talk to….. When you learn to talk, your healing begins…. Jokingly we all use say Nigerians barely commit suicide buy it’s different now. Suicide and depression is not a thing of country, region, ethnicity or race… It’s a thing of the mind. That’s why we need each other. It’s no longer a joke. It’s as real as real can be…. 

It’s  all about you….. Never forget that 

References :

American psychiatric Association

Searching for God’s heartbeat (July-Sept 2017).


Health, Uncategorized


A woman who bears a child on behalf of another woman, either from her own egg fertilized by the other woman’s partner, or from the implantation in her uterus of a fertilized egg from the other woman.

surrogate mother is a woman who has agreed to give birth to a baby on behalf of another woman. A woman who agrees, often for pay, to give birth to a child resulting from artificial insemination or the implantation of an already fertilized egg and who surrenders any parental rights to a third party.


Surrogacy is a method or agreement whereby a woman agrees to carry a pregnancy for another person or persons, who will become the newborn child’s parent(s) after birth.

Intended parents may seek a surrogacy arrangement when either pregnancy is medically impossible, pregnancy risks present an unacceptable danger to the mother’s health or is a same sex couple’s preferred method of having children. Monetary compensation may or may not be involved in these arrangements. If the surrogate receives money for the surrogacy the arrangement is considered commercial surrogacy, if she receives no compensation beyond reimbursement of medical and other reasonable expenses it is referred to as altruistic. The legality and costs of surrogacy vary widely between jurisdictions, sometimes resulting in interstate or international surrogacy arrangements.

A lot of women including the high and mighty have been having a lot of issues as regards child bearing, but all thanks to medical technology which has helped by bringing up so many other options like, IVF and SURROGACY.

Surrogacy is an option for women who can’t carry a baby in their womb for medical reasons, having the opportunity of another woman carrying the baby in her womb and giving birth to the baby with the end point of giving the baby to the his/her parents.

There are two kinds of surrogate mother, the traditional surrogate and gestational surrogate.

Traditional surrogate:  The surrogate acts as both the egg donor and as the actual surrogate for the embryo, and she is impregnated using a process known as intrauterine insemination, or IUI. In a traditional surrogacy, the woman carrying the baby is the biological mother because it was her eggs that was fertilized by the father’s sperm. This type of surrogacy is typically only used if the biological mother’s egg and/or the biological father’s sperm are unable to be used.

Gestational surrogate: In this type of surrogacy, the surrogate’s eggs are not used at all. The embryo would be created using the biological parents egg and sperm through the process called in-vitro fertilization (IVF). With this process, the baby wouldn’t be related to the surrogate mother biologically.  This method is less legally complicated. Although Nigeria has no law as regards surrogacy but it’s usually advised you get the services of a lawyer to draft a legal binding contract to avoid future problems. By drafting a binding legal contract, everyone is clear and aware of its rights and obligations.

Nigeria is yet to acknowledge legally, and thus, provide policy guidelines and legislation to formalize and regulate surrogacy in the country. It means also there are no laws prescribing or proscribing surrogacy in the country. To the best of our knowledge and belief, the topic has not come up for detailed discussion in any legislative chambers in Nigeria. This has created a void, which is being and can be exploited further by illegal commercial operators with news of baby factories, baby sale, baby swap rife in the country.  In England, surrogate arrangement is illegal and is banned by the surrogate amendment act of 1985. The surrogate mother maintains legal ownership of the child even in cases of gestational surrogacy, unless a parental order or adoption is made. Other counties, where it is illegal include Sweden, Finland, Japan, Saudi Arabia, and China.  In Australia and Canada, whereas altruistic surrogacy is legal, commercial surrogacy is not permitted under the law. In Canada, reimbursement for attendant expenses is permitted but other payments are illegal. In South Africa, the surrogacy arrangement must be validated by the high court and the commissioning couple has the legal rights.  In Ukraine, Russia and Georgia amongst others, surrogacy is legal. In the United States, legislation and legality of surrogacy varies from state to state.

In Nigeria, we have heard so many stories of illegal surrogacy. scenarios where people are usually caught for running or owning what we usually call  “BABY MAKING FACTORY”. Situations where a matured woman or man, gathers group of girls together and people pay them to have children for them and in return would get paid.

I remember when my mum was saying if only she hadn’t had her tubes tied, she would have volunteered to be a surrogate  for a family member who was having problems carrying a baby.

There is a need in Nigeria, for legal provisions for or against surrogacy. Such laws must provide for the legality or otherwise of the different types and forms of surrogacy taking into consideration the social, traditional, cultural, ethical, and psychological climate in the country. It should be able to regulate the procedure and processes of commercial surrogacy to avoid exploitation of a vulnerable population by surrogacy agents, while serving the interest of all concerned.

How to Choose a Surrogate

A lot of people would have preferred that a close family relation helped them out as regards being a surrogate mother to their child/children. But most times, it’s actually kicked against because of the emotionally ties.  Patients are usually advised to go far with their search for a surrogate.  You may want to do the following:

  • Narrow your list down to those over the age of 21 that have already given birth to a healthy baby.
  • Ask potential surrogates for references and run background checks on the final candidates.
  • Choose a carrier with similar priorities and values.
  • The surrogate’s medical history—this should include a genetic profile (traditional surrogates only), blood tests and obstetric history.
  • The surrogate’s lifestyle choices including their history of drinking and substance abuse.
  • The cost of the surrogacy process—this includes surrogacy compensation, health and life insurance, legal fees, agency fees, psychological screening and monitoring, travel costs, medical expenses, and egg donation compensation and expenses (if applicable) .
  • The legal issues—the laws on surrogacy vary from state to state, so the location of your surrogate is an important issue to consider.
  • What kind of relationship you wish to have with the surrogate after the child is born—you may wish the surrogate to remain an integral part of your child’s life, or have the relationship complete upon delivery.

                      How to Find a Surrogate

The funny thing about this particular aspect of how to find surrogate mother was that, i never believed that there were agencies in Nigeria that specialises in giving you the perfect surrogate of your choice. I have read from books and head from people that in most  countries, there are many agencies established for this particular aspect. Its also good to know that we have such here in Nigeria although i don’t know how genuine they are. Some hospitals and fertility clinics also help in providing you with surrogates. However you decide to find or get a surrogate, just  make sure you do the needful before giving such a person the responsibility or should i say privilege of bearing your child.

My sister and I saw this writing online that Kim kardashian’s surrogate would be paid $75k (i stand to be corrected), immediately she said “I WANT TO BE A SURROGATE”. whether she was joking or not, i don’t know but it made me wonder “why do people become surrogate? Is it because of the money or for the sole purpose of helping put a smile on the faces of a childless couple? Well for me, no matter the amount of money i would be paid, i don’t think i can be a surrogate although i would’ve loved to help. I just don’t know if I would be able to path ways with the baby.. 

A lot of people have turned the act of Surrogacy to business here in Nigeria to the extent that everyone is going online to express their interest in becoming a surrogate.

Have you ever thought of procuring the services of a surrogate? Do you prefer surrogacy to adoption? Which do you think is better. Can you be a surrogate to help someone?

It’s always about you………….never forget that.





Happy new month to everyone.. This is my very first post for the month of October. I am so sorry to be starting my post for this month with a topic on sickness instead of something better. As much as i hate doing this, i think its very important and necessary we learn about this.

So i don’t know how many of us Men or Women must have heard about POLYCYSTIC OVARY SYNDROME. Well if you are among those who haven’t heard of it before, don’t feel bad because prior to this research, i also had not heard of it. My very good friend, who is a medical student in Dubai told me to make research and write on this topic. She explained that aside from the fact that she is 25 and unmarried and has been diagnosed with it, she has also noticed that quite a number of women in are suffering from this. According to her, some are aware while some are not.

Well i decided to find out for myself what this “polycystic ovary syndrome” at first i thought it was the same thing as OVARIAN CYST but it’s not.

Ovarian cysts are fluid-filled sacs in the ovary. They are common and usually form during ovulation. Ovulation happens when the ovary releases an egg each month. Many women with ovarian cysts don’t have symptoms. The cysts are usually harmless.

There was a time i was diagnosed of having Ovarian cyst and my doctor told me i had to take some medications for some weeks and if it does get better, he would do a small surgery called Laparoscopy.  Laparoscopy (lap-uh-ROSS-kuh-pee). With this surgery, the doctor makes a very small cut above or below your belly button to look inside your pelvic area and remove the cyst. This is often recommended for smaller cysts that look benign (not cancerous) on the ultrasound. Thank God with the Medication and my constant prayer to God i was healed.

What is PCOS?

According to

PCOS is a problem with hormones that affects women during their childbearing years (ages 15 to 44). Between 2.2 and 26.7 percent of women in this age group have PCOS .   Many women have PCOS but don’t know it. In one study, up to 70 percent of women with PCOS hadn’t been diagnosed .

PCOS affects a woman’s ovaries, the reproductive organs that produce estrogen and progesterone — hormones that regulate the menstrual cycle. The ovaries also produce a small amount of male hormones called androgens.     The ovaries release eggs to be fertilized by a man’s sperm. The release of an egg each month is called ovulation.

Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) control ovulation. FSH stimulates the ovary to produce a follicle — a sac that contains an egg — and then LH triggers the ovary to release a mature egg.

PCOS is a “syndrome,” or group of symptoms that affects the ovaries and ovulation. Its three main features are:

  • cysts in the ovaries
  • high levels of male hormones
  • irregular or skipped periods

In PCOS, many small, fluid-filled sacs grow inside the ovaries. The word “polycystic” means “many cysts.”

These sacs are actually follicles, each one containing an immature egg. The eggs never mature enough to trigger ovulation.

The lack of ovulation alters levels of estrogen, progesterone, FSH, and LH. Estrogen and progesterone levels are lower than usual, while androgen levels are higher than usual.

Extra male hormones disrupt the menstrual cycle, so women with PCOS get fewer periods than usual.


6 common symptoms of PCOS

Some women start seeing symptoms around the time of their first period. Others only discover they have PCOS after they’ve gained a lot of weight or they’ve had trouble getting pregnant.

The most common PCOS symptoms are:

  • Irregular periods: A lack of ovulation prevents the uterine lining from shedding every month. Some women with PCOS get fewer than eight periods a year (10).
  • Heavy bleeding: The uterine lining builds up for a longer period of time, so the periods you do get can be heavier than normal.
  • Hair growth: More than 70 percent of women with this condition grow hair on their face and body — including on their back, belly, and chest (11). Excess hair growth is called hirsutism.
  • Acne: Male hormones can make the skin oilier than usual and cause breakouts on areas like the face, chest, and upper back.
  • Weight gain: Up to 80 percent of women with PCOS are overweight or obese (11).
  • Male-pattern baldness: Hair on the scalp get thinner and fall out.
  • Darkening of the skin: Dark patches of skin can form in body creases like those on the neck, in the groin, and under the breasts.
  • Headaches: Hormone changes can trigger headaches in some women.

How PCOS affects your body

Having higher-than-normal androgen levels can affect your fertility and other aspects of your health.


To get pregnant, you have to ovulate. Women who don’t ovulate regularly don’t release as many eggs to be fertilized. PCOS is one of the leading causes of infertility in women (12).

Metabolic syndrome

Up to 80 percent of women with PCOS are overweight or obese (13). Both obesity and PCOS increase your risk for high blood sugar, high blood pressure, low HDL (“good”) cholesterol, and high LDL (“bad”) cholesterol.

Together, these factors are called metabolic syndrome, and they increase the risk for heart disease, diabetes, and stroke.

Sleep apnea

This condition causes repeated pauses in breathing during the night, which interrupt sleep.

Sleep apnea is more common in women who are overweight — especially if they also have PCOS. The risk for sleep apnea is 5 to 10 times higher in obese women with PCOS than in those without PCOS (14).

Endometrial cancer

During ovulation, the uterine lining sheds. If you don’t ovulate every month, the lining can build up.  A thickened uterine lining can increase your risk for endometrial cancer (15).


Both hormonal changes and symptoms like unwanted hair growth can negatively affect your emotions. Many with PCOS end up experiencing depression and anxiety (16).

How PCOS is diagnosed

Doctors typically diagnose PCOS in women who have at least two of these three symptoms :

Your doctor should also ask whether you’ve had symptoms like acne, face and body hair growth, and weight gain.

pelvic exam can look for any problems with your ovaries or other parts of your reproductive tract. During this test, your doctor inserts gloved fingers into your vagina and checks for any growths in your ovaries or uterus.

Blood tests check for higher-than-normal levels of male hormones. You might also have blood tests to check your cholesterol, insulin, and triglyceride levels to evaluate your risk for related conditions like heart disease and diabetes.

An ultrasound uses sound waves to look for abnormal follicles and other problems with your ovaries and uterus.

Pregnancy and PCOS

PCOS interrupts the normal menstrual cycle and makes it harder to get pregnant. Between 70 and 80 percent of women with PCOS have fertility problems .

This condition can also increase the risk for pregnancy complications.

Women with PCOS are twice as likely as women without the condition to deliver their baby prematurely. They’re also at greater risk for miscarriage, high blood pressure, and gestational diabetes .

However, women with PCOS can get pregnant using fertility treatments that improve ovulation. Losing weight and lowering blood sugar levels can improve your odds of having a healthy pregnancy.

According to 

What causes PCOS?

The exact cause of PCOS is unknown. In fact, there is probably more than one cause. In general, an imbalance of hormones underlies the condition. It has also been called “ovarian androgen excess” because the ovaries produce male hormones (androgens) in increased amounts.

PCOS seems to be inherited. Female relatives or children of patients with PCOS are at increased risk for having PCOS.


Common medical treatments

Birth control pills and other medicines can help regulate the menstrual cycle and treat PCOS symptoms like hair growth and acne.

Birth control

Taking estrogen and progestin daily can restore a normal hormone balance, regulate ovulation, relieve symptoms like excess hair growth, and protect against endometrial cancer. These hormones come in a pillpatch, or vaginal ring.


Metformin (Glucophage, Fortamet) is a drug used to treat type 2 diabetes. It also treats PCOS by improving insulin levels.

One study found that taking metformin while making changes to diet and exercise improves weight loss, lowers blood sugar, and restores a normal menstrual cycle better than changes to diet and exercise alone (24).


Clomiphene (Clomid) is a fertility drug that can help women with PCOS get pregnant. However, it increases the risk for twins and other multiple births (25).

Hair removal medicines

A few treatments can help get rid of unwanted hair or stop it from growing. Eflornithine (Vaniqa) cream is a prescription drug that slows hair growth. Laser hair removal and electrolysis can get rid of unwanted hair on your face and body.


Surgery can be an option to improve fertility if other treatments don’t work. Ovarian drilling is a procedure that makes tiny holes in the ovary with a laser or thin heated needle to restore normal ovulation.


When to see a doctor

See a doctor if:

  • You’ve missed periods and you’re not pregnant.
  • You have symptoms of PCOS, such as hair growth on your face and body.
  • You’ve been trying to get pregnant for more than 12 months but haven’t been successful.
  • You have symptoms of diabetes, such as excess thirst or hunger, blurred vision, or unexplained weight loss.

If you have PCOS, plan regular visits with your primary care doctor. You’ll need regular tests to check for diabetes, high blood pressure, and other possible complications.


Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) cannot be prevented. But early diagnosis and treatment helps prevent long-term complications, such as infertility, metabolic syndrome, obesity, diabetes, and heart disease.

Healthy eating and exercise- Eat a balanced diet. A diet that includes lots of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and low-fat dairy products supplies your body’s nutritional needs, satisfies your hunger, and decreases your cravings. And a healthy diet makes you feel better and have more energy.

Make physical activity a regular and essential part of your life. Choose fitness activities that are right for you to help boost your motivation. Walking is one of the best activities. Having a walking or exercise partner that you can count on can also be a great way to stay active. For more information, see the topic Fitness.

Weight control and weight loss- Stay at a healthy weight. This is the weight at which you feel good about yourself, have energy for work and play, and can manage your PCOS symptoms.

Don’t smoke- If you smoke, consider quitting. Women who smoke have higher levels of androgens than women who don’t smoke. Smoking also increases the risk for heart disease. For more information, see Quitting Smoking.

Caring for skin and hair- Acne treatment may include nonprescription or prescription medicines that you put on your skin (topical) or take by mouth (oral). Some women notice an improvement in their acne after using estrogen-progestin hormone pills. For more information, see the topic Acne.

Like i would always say, it’s always good to constantly go for check up as a person whether you are a man or a woman. Lets all try our best to make sure that we stay safe and healthy.  Please feel free to comment on today’s post if you have more suggestions to share. Let’s not forget to share this post until it gets to women all over the World.

It’s all about you …..never forget that.


Health, Parents, Uncategorized

Understanding Autism — the Basics

What Is Autism?

Autism is a brain disorder that limits a person’s ability to communicate and relate to other people. It first appears in young children, who fall along a spectrum from mild to severe. Some people can navigate their world, some have exceptional abilities, while others struggle to speak. Autism spectrum disorders (ASDs) affect about one child in 68, striking nearly five times as many boys as girls.

Autism is a complex neurobehavioral condition that includes impairments in social interaction and developmental language and communication skills combined with rigid, repetitive behaviors. Because of the range of symptoms, this condition is now called autism spectrum disorder (ASD). It covers a large spectrum of symptoms, skills, and levels of impairment. ASD ranges in severity from a handicap that somewhat limits an otherwise normal life to a devastating disability that may require institutional care.

Children with autism have trouble communicating. They have trouble understanding what other people think and feel. This makes it very hard for them to express themselves either with words or through gestures, facial expressions, and touch.

A child with ASD who is very sensitive may be greatly troubled — sometimes even pained — by sounds, touches, smells, or sights that seem normal to others.

Children who are autistic may have repetitive, stereotyped body movements such as rocking, pacing, or hand flapping. They may have unusual responses to people, attachments to objects, resistance to change in their routines, or aggressive or self-injurious behavior. At times they may seem not to notice people, objects, or activities in their surroundings. Some children with autism may also developseizures. And in some cases, those seizures may not occur until adolescence.

Some people with autism are cognitively impaired to a degree. In contrast to more typical cognitive impairment, which is characterized by relatively even delays in all areas of development, people with autism show uneven skill development. They may have problems in certain areas, especially the ability to communicate and relate to others. But they may have unusually developed skills in other areas, such as drawing, creating music, solving math problems, or memorizing facts. For this reason, they may test higher — perhaps even in the average or above-average range — on nonverbal intelligence tests.

Symptoms of autism typically appears during the first three years of life. Some children show signs from birth. Others seem to develop normally at first, only to slip suddenly intosymptoms when they are 18 to 36 months old. However, it is now recognized that some individuals may not show symptoms of a communication disorder until demands of the environment exceed their capabilities. Autism is four times more common in boys than in girls. It knows no racial, ethnic, or social boundaries. Family income, lifestyle, or educational levels do not affect a child’s chance of being autistic.

Autism is said to be increasing; however, it is not entirely clear whether the increase is related to changes in how it is diagnosed or whether it is a true increase in the incidence of the disease.

Autism is just one syndrome that now falls under the heading of autism spectrum disorders.  Previous disorders that are now classified under the umbrella diagnosis of  ASD or a social communication disorder include:

  • Autistic disorder. This is what most people think of when they hear the word “autism.” It refers to problems with social interactions, communication, and imaginative play in children younger than 3 years.
  • Asperger’s syndrome. These children don’t have a problem with language — in fact, they tend to score in the average or above-average range on intelligence tests. But they have the same social problems and limited scope of interests as children with autistic disorder.
  • Pervasive developmental disorder or PDD — also known as atypical autism.This is a kind of catch-all category for children who have some autistic behaviors but who don’t fit into other categories.
  • Childhood disintegrative disorder. These children develop normally for at least two years and then lose some or most of their communication and social skills. This is an extremely rare disorder and its existence as a separate condition is a matter of debate among many mental health professionals.

Rett syndrome previously fell under ASD spectrum but it is now confirmed that Rett’s cause is genetic. It no longer falls under ASD guidelines. Children with Rett syndrome, primarily girls, start developing normally but then begin losing their communication and social skills. Beginning at the age of 1 to 4 years, repetitive hand movements replace purposeful use of the hands. Children with Rett syndrome are usually severely cognitively impaired.

Signs of Autism

Before a child turns three, careful observers can see signs of autism. Some children develop normally until 18-24 months old and then stop or lose skills. Signs of an ASD can include:

  • Repeated motions (rocking or spinning)
  • Avoiding eye contact or physical touch
  • Delays in learning to talk
  • Repeating words or phrases (echolalia)
  • Getting upset by minor changes

It’s important to note that these signs can occur in children without ASDs, too.

Other Signs and Symptoms

People with autism sometimes may have physical symptoms, including digestive problems such as constipation and sleep problems. Children may have poor coordination of the large muscles used for running and climbing, or the smaller muscles of the hand. About a third of people with autism also have seizures.

Treatment: Education

Local school systems may provide special services to help a child with autism learn and develop. This can include speech therapy and occupational therapy. Schools are required to develop an Individualized Education Program (IEP) for each child. Children with autism may qualify for early intervention or extended school year services. If you are concerned about your child, be an advocate and ask the school to develop an IEP.

I know most people would think all i do is research and write. Some would actually say ‘She doesn’t know anything about autism’. well i really don’t know about it that’s why i try to know by reading but i do understand the feeling a parent of an autistic child.

I just want to tell every mother who has an autistic child that it’s not your fault and it’s neither the fault of the child. You just have to love that child the same way you love the rest of your children. One important thing you need to note is, don’t make that child feel left out. i know by nature, most of them prefer being alone. When you notice any of the above symptoms or others you might have researched on early or late, its best you get that child a psychologist instead of locking him/her up in the room often. This days we have psychologist who specialize  in helping children that are autistic. There are also wonderful schools that attend to children with special needs. Here are top 5 schools that attend to children with special needs.

1.Modupe Cole Memorial Childcare and Treatment Home

2. Benola – Benola is a Not for Profit Organization committed to change and progress for persons living with Cerebral Palsy.

3. C.A.D.E.T. Academy – C.A.D.E.T. Academy is a research & evidence-based special needs education & learning program located in Abuja, Nigeria but serves a global community.

4. The Zamarr Institute

5. Patrick Speech and Languages Centre

There are other schools but i only choose to write 5… Kudos to parents with autistic children because i know you are doing your best. for those of us yet to have children, I pray that all our children will be born without issues and for those of us who already have children, may they continue to make us happy and proud of them..

It’s all about you….never forget that.





Welcome everyone to this beautiful month of September. My prayer is that the good lord will continue to protect us and may our expectations never be cut short. Happy new month.. This is officially the first post of the month and I want it to be on Health. I am no doctor but I have been privileged to work in a medical equipment distribution company and I have been opportune to seat and talk with a lot of medical professionals.

So let’s talk about the heart. 

The heart is a muscular organ in humans and other animals, which pumps blood through the blood vessels of the circulatory system. Blood provides the body with oxygen and nutrients, as well as assists in the removal of metabolic waste. In humans, the heart is located between the lungs, in the middle of compartment of the chest.

What Is a Heart Attack?

A heart attack happens when the flow of oxygen rich blood to a section of the heart muscle suddenly becomes blocked and the heart can’t get oxygen. If blood flow isn’t restored quickly and the section of heart muscle begins to die. (this is according to National health, blood and lung Institute).

A lot of people you hear die suddenly, die of heart attack. This(heart attack), can be preventable to an extent and there are different test carried out regularly to monitor and check the heart, including medication and treatments for those who already have it.


  1. Angiography – Coronary angiography involves a small tube being inserted into an Artery and threaded through to coronary arteries near your heart. A special dye is injected through the catheter into your blood stream using the dye as a highlight, x-ray pictures of the heart and coronary arteries are taken.
  2. Blood pressure monitoring – involves wearing a blood pressure unit for up to 24 hours. This unit regularly rakes your blood pressure and measures your heart rate. Most of don’t know that we need to have our very own BP Apparatus at home to constantly check our BP. You don’t have to wait till you go to the hospital for it to be done.
  3. Blood Tests  – This can help to diagnose a condition or to monitor someone who has already been diagnosed with a heart condition. Blood tests can also be taken to monitor the effects of medication as well as the levels of minerals in the blood.
  4. Electrocardiograph (ECG or EKG ) Test –  is a test that checks for problems with the electrical activity of your heart. An EKG shows the heart’s electrical activity as line tracings on paper. The spikes and dips in the tracings are called waves. The heart is a muscular pump made up of four chambers . All thanks to technology, individuals can also acquire their own mobile (pocket size) ECG mechine. You can do it in the comfort of your house, office etc and send the test result to your doctor.
  5. Myocardial perfusion scans.
  6. Echocardiogram tests.
  7. Electrophysiological studies.
  8. Tilt table test – Used if you have episodes of fainting, to find out if these could be related to your heart.

If you are experiencing any of the symptoms below, you may be having a heart attack. Are you experiencing heaviness, tightness, pressure, discomfort and pain in any of these areas :Chest, shoulder, jaw, arm, neck and back. You may also be experiencing sweating, shortness of breath, nausea, fatigue and dizziness. 

If you think you are having a heart attack :

  1. Stop and rest. Tell someone how you feel. – if your symptoms are severe or they appear to be getting worse, take action by finding someone to rush you to the hospital.


If you take your medication and the symptoms have not been relieved within 15 minutes, then take action by finding someone to rush you to the hospital.


  • Angioplasty and Stent – Angioplasty is a treatment that uses Stent to improve blood flow to the heart.
  • Coronary artery bypass graft surgery. Bypass surgery is used to get blood to part of your heart muscle when your arteries are blocked.
  • Heart Value Surgery – is used to either repair or replace poorly working heart values.
  • Peace makers – can be used to treat slow or irregular heartbeats called arrhythmia.


  • According to centers for disease control and prevention, physical activity can help you maintain a healthy weight and lower Cholesterol and blood pressure.
  • Prevent heart disease by making choices and managing any health conditions you may have.
  • Eat healthy balanced died, avoid smoking, try to keep your blood pressure at a healthy level.

All this equipments both for individuals and personal use can be gotten at Americare medical equipment distributors ltd. You can also contact me if you need to purchase any equipment at all. We need to start taking care of ourselves and our family.. Let’s not take our health for granted so that we don’t regret it..

It’s all about you.. Never forget that. 



Today is what I would like to call “Healthy Tuesday”. Today for the first time I would be writing on Health related topic.. And yes, a little unusual because it’s specifically on the health of a man.

Take care of your man, isn’t just directed to your husband or your boyfriend. It’s to all the men in your life. Your husband, boyfriend, fiance, brother, father, father-in-law, broth-in-law.

Am sure a lot of us if not all has heard of Prostate cancer. A lot of men due of this illness without knowing about it.. It’s usually been advised by doctors that Men should always have constant check up.


Many men with prostate cancer have no symptoms related to their cancer. For those that do have sysmptoms, includes  the following :

  • URINARY PROBLEMS –Weak urine stream difficulty initiating urination, stopping and starting during urination, urinating frequently, especially at night, pain or burning with urination. These symptoms are also often associated with no cancerous enlargement of the prostrate, called benign prostate hypertrophy or BPH. 
  • BLOOD –in the urine and semen.
  • PAIN – in the hips, pelvis, spine and upper legs. Pain or discomfort during ejaculation..

Do we know what a prostate is?

  1. A prostate is a walnut sized gland that is part of the male reproductive system.
  2. The prostrate is located in beneath the urinary bladder and in front of the rectum.
  3. The prostrate makes some of the fluid that nourishes and protects a permanent cells in the semen. Just behind the prostate are the seminal vesicles, which make most of the fluid for the semen.
  4. The Urethra is a tube that carries urine and semen out of the body through the penis, running through the prostate.
  5. The activity and growth of the prostate ate is stimulated by male hormones called androgen.

If you want to reduce your risk of prostate cancer, consider trying to :

  • Choose a low-fat diet
  • Eat more fat from plants than from animals 
  • Increase the amount of fruits and vegetables you eat each day. 
  • Eat fish 
  • Reduce the amount of diary products you eat each day. 

Research shows that men with Certain rusk factors are more likely to develop prostate cancer. These risk factors include the following :

  • AGE over 65 – This is the main risk factor to prostrate cancer. The older a man gets, the more likely he will develop prostate cancer. This disease is rare in men under 45 years of age.
  • Family history – one’s risk is higher if you have a father and  brother with it.
  • Certain Genome changes – research suggest that the risk for prostate cancer may be linked to specific changes on party chromosomes.

Having a risk factor doesn’t mean that one will develop prostate cancer. Most men with any of the above risk factor will still never develop this  disease. The most important thing is to go for regular check ups and if you start observing any of above symptoms, please endeavor to see your doctor on time…

Women, ladies, girls, it’s our duty to take care of the men in our lives… As soon as you get this post, please don’t forget to share it because you may never know who you are saving……


Health, Inspirational, Parents

Despite the stress I go through  in the camp where I am currently under going my Nysc orientation, I try so hard to make sure I still research, write and post.  So, like I promised in my last post,  I would be talking about long term effects of sexual abuse on children and different strategies employed by them to cope with the sexual abuse.

Below are the long term effects of sexual abuse on children. 

–  Intimacy and relationship : it’s possible that your (victims)  with sex came as a result of sexual abuse.  As an adult, intimacy might be a struggle at times.  Survivors may also struggle to set boundaries that help them feel safe in relationships. 

–   Self –  esteem : you may struggle with low self – esteem, which can be a result of the negative message you received from your abuser(s),  and having your personal safety violated or ignored.  Low self – esteem can affect many different areas of your life such as your relationships, your career, and even your health.  

–  Long term impacts on mental health : there have been numerous studies examine the association between a history of child sexual abuse and mental health problems in adult life that have employed clinical samples.  

There is now an established body of knowledge clearly linking a history of child sexual abuse with higher rate in adult life of depressive systoms, anxiety systoms, substance abuse disorder, post – traumatic stress disorder 

–  Drug abuse and alcoholism 

–  Difficult with intimacy 

–  Sexual confusion or promiscuity as a result of not dealing with emotions and feelings surrounding the abuse.  Most times the abused instead of having a relationship with the opposite sex,  they result in having experimental relationships with their same sex because they feel it’s safer. 

–  Poor body image because the body was the instrument used during the sexual abuse.  

Others include. 

1) Trouble sleeping, anxiety, depression. 

2) Damaged goods syndrome- negative body image due to self-blame.  This may be intensified if physical pain was experienced during the abused incidents. 

3) Sexual difficulties such as fear of sex or intimacy, indiscriminate multiple sex partners, or difficulty in reaching orgasim. 

4) Parenting problems such as fear of being a bad parent, or fear of abusing the child or being over protective. 

LEGAL ACTION –  Suspicious of child sexual abuse should be reported to a child protective service agency or law enforcement agency. The law requires professionals who work with children to report suspected neglect or abuse. 

In addition to reporting child sexual abuse to the authorities, victims can sue their abuse in a civil court to recover monetary damages or win other remedies. Many states have extended their criminal and civil statues of limitation for child sexual abuse cases.  In addition the delayed discovery rule suspends the status of limitation if the victim had repressed all memory of the abuse or was unaware that the abuse caused current problems. 


– Dissociation 

– Fragmentation of personality ( hiding the past to keep the experience out of conscious awareness). Repressed memory. 

– Denial stage- they try to make themselves believe it never happened to them and it was all a dream. 

–  Refraining strategies :

1) Rationalizing –  the common reaction is that children believes they are bad and deserves to be punished. 

2) Minimization –  the victim reduces the experience to the smallest possible effect. Often used when denial fails.  Eg ” my uncle does hit me occasionally, but I’ve been through far worse. 

Dr. Berman stresses out in her book the importance bringing the abuse to light and hopes victims will feel more comfortable coming forward.  

Victims need to know that are not alone and help is available, but most importantly healing is definitely possible. 

SEXUAL ABUSE (On children) 

Health, Inspirational, Parents

Unicef  reported in 2015 that one in four girls, one in ten boys are sexually abused before the age 18.. It’s been  proven that 6 out of 10 children experience emotional, physical or sexual abuse before 18.

Child abuse is more pervasive in our society than we care to admit. The fact that  we don’t talk about this,  doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

What is child sexual abuse?  

Child sexual abuse or child molestation is a form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation.

Forms of child sexual abuse include engaging in sexual activities with a child (whether by asking or pressuring, or by other means). Child sexual abuse can occur in a variety of settings, including home, school, or work (in places where child labor is common). 

It’s so hard for most of our parents to believe that we have been sexually abused. Most times these abused children find it hard to tell their parents about this because either their parents are always busy,  never listens, never believe or even blames them that they are the course of the abuse..  

Most parents, contribute to the silence of this children because despite being told,  they continue to live in self doubt.  They end up telling the child  “go nothing happened to you. It’s just your imagination”.  I did this research and am writing this to help those already affected to open up and for our parents to help prevent this from occurring by constantly listening to their children, and by constantly monitoring the change in behavior of their children.  

Below are some signs that may indicate a child is been sexually abused. 

: Children might suddenly avoid being alone with people such as family members or friends. 

:  They could seem frightened of a particular person or reluctant to socialize with them.  When a parent sees this, you are supposed to start asking questions. Being suspicious is not a problem as long as you don’t accuse anyone without proof.  

: When a child starts showing sexual behaviors that’s inappropriate for their age, with toys or objects or with friends.

:  Nightmare, sleeping problems. (finding it hard to sleep or finding it hard to fall asleep).

: Personality changes, seeming insecure. 

:  Unaccountable dear of a particular place or persons. 

: Outburst of anger. 

:  Changes in eating habits. 

: Physical signs –  bruises around genitals,  soreness or sexually transmitted diseases. 

: Suddenly becoming secretive.  

How to react to sexualized behavior ( guardians and parents).

If you’re too disapproving or imply that sex shouldn’t be spoken about then your child may be less likely to come to you with questions or worries they might have.

Of course, this won’t be easy for everyone, especially if your child behavior seems shocking or morally wrong to you, but try to be calm.  Your body language and tone can make a difference.  The way you react can affect how comfortable your child will feel about talking to you about these things in the future.

Note: don’t lecture your child but talk together and also listen. Try to have short, informal chats now and again. 

Use every day situation to strike up the conversation. Use humor if it makes it easier. 

Yes, “I know it’s hard to read about, it’s hard to talk about,  but it’s so much harder to live through it”.  If we learn to talk about child abuse enough, we can ensure that many others won’t have to experience it.  For those of us that has been suffered from such abuse,  it’s never too late to begin to heal.

Those that have suffered through this,  it’s not easy to share or talk to someone, but I want to remind us that talking helps us heal fast.  Seek medical and psychological assistance for both the child and your self (parents or guardian). 

I wanted to share this post because I know it will save someone from been abused, and I know to an extent, it will help our parents become more observant.  

Sometimes, this threat of abuse could be from an outsider. If it’s, the child will become hyper arousal and will alert the caregiver by crying.  If the threat is by a caregiver or close family,  the child will exhibit trates of dissociation.  

Some children tend  to  ” freeze”  ( pretending the person giving the threat doesn’t exist) when ever the abuser’s is around. 

I would soon post a part 2  on sexual abuse on children, explaining more on ways children create ways of copying with the abuse.  

Please don’t forget to like, comment and share to save a life. Enough of living in the shadows . 

 Thanks and God bless you.