Inspirational, Reality., Relationship

Every time I go on Facebook, consciously or unconsciously, I always find myself checking Mr Allison Hyacintho’s page because his very good when it comes to youth and relationship advice. Well if you don’t know him or haven’t read his book or any of his write ups, it’s not too late to do so.

I am sharing Mr Allison’s write up on relationship exercise because I know it would be bad of me if I don’t do that. “I am not a stingy reader”.


1- Find a good time to pray together and share a foundation of faith, whether physically or over the phone. And do not let a day pass without bringing your partners’ loving name up to the Lord in your own quiet devotion. Do not wait until there is a need before you pray.

Pray “Lord, I thank you for the man/woman you have given to me to nurture. Shield him/her away from temptations today, protect his/her heart from evil, fill my partner with your Holy Spirit, and let him/her walk in your presence daily. Amen.”

2- When you get together today turn your phone or data off so you can focus to enjoy each others company without distractions. Quality time is not about the number of hours you spend together, it is what you do with the smallest amount of time you have to share that really matters. So today, keep your hands off your phone, stay off your chats, give Facebook a break and facelove your partner for those precious moments together.

3- Surround yourself with people who have strong moral character and godly values. I’m not just talking about you two hanging out together with friends who add value to your relationship, I’m talking about you building friendship with people who add value to your personal life. Because the more you keep seeking to add value to yourself, the more your relationship will keep growing in value.

4- Compliment each other. Pay attention to the little changes going on in their life. Say nice things about the way they’re dressed and their hair, etc!.. But more importantly, learn to say I love you, more I love you, endless I love you. At the end of every phone call, at the end of every text, just keep saying I love you, no one will beat you. 😝😝😝

5- Wake up and repeat these four exercises EVERY DAY! 😂😂

Enjoy a beautiful day!

#confessionsofagoodman #allisonhyacintho

I might not be able to write always due to my work but I promise to always share important write ups I come across to…..

It’s all about you……. Never forget that.


Inspirational, Reality.

March 8 every year is the day set aside to celebrate women all over the world. International women’s day commemorates the movement for women’s demand for an end to violence against women, equality in the workplace and proper respect for the option and views of women.

Things to do to celebrate international women’s day.

  1. Taking a bold step and make ground breaking decisions that are effective. Let go of the fear you have as a woman.
  2. Encourage you to your wives, sisters, daughters and female friends..
  3. Celebrate women in films. (tell stories of successful women)
  4. Celebrate successful women such as the followings:

Nwanyeruwa is the woman who instigated a short war that is often referred to as the first major challenge to British authority in West Africa during the colonial period. Some call it the Aba women’s riots and some call it the Women’s War.

Amina (also Aminatu; d. 1610) was a HausaMuslim warrior queen of Zazzau (now Zaria), in what is now north west Nigeria. She is the subject of many legends, but is believed by historians to have been a real ruler.

Chief Funmilayo Ransome Kuti (25 October 1900 – 13 April 1978) was a teacher, political campaigner, women’s rights activist and traditional aristocrat in Nigeria. She served with distinction as one of the most prominent leaders of her generation. She was also the first woman in the country to drive a car. Ransome-Kuti’s political activism led to her being described as the doyen of female rights in Nigeria, as well as to her being regarded as “The Mother of Africa.

Margaret Ekpo (June 27, 1914 – September 21, 2006) was a Nigerian women’s rights activist and social mobilizer who was a pioneering female politician in the country’s First Republic and a leading member of a class of traditional Nigerian women activists, many of whom rallied women beyond notions of ethnic solidarity.

Azeezat Oshoala is a Nigerian female footballer who currently plays for Chinese side Dalian Quanjian F.C. She has represented Nigeria in several football tournaments. She was named ‘Best player’ at the 2014 FIFA U-20 Women’s World Cup and 2014 African Women’s Championship.

Blessing Okagbare is an award winning Nigerian athlete. She beat Usain Bolt, to the 2016 Guinness world records feat as the athlete with the most diamond league appearances. Okagbare holds the women’s 100 metres Commonwealth Games record for the fastest time at 10.85 seconds.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is currently the face of Nigerian literature. She is a fierce advocate for gender equality. Adichie has won numerous literary awards including the National Book Critics Circle Award for Fiction.

This is just to mention but a few of both old and modern women in Nigeria 🇳🇬 that we need to emulate their strength and boldness to do great things….

We need to learn how to appreciate all the women around us. They do a lot without getting any appreciation. Not that they do it for the appreciation but a little “Thank you, sorry and I love you won’t hurt”

Today we celebrate international women’s day…
Today I support the world to fight for the rights of women. To demand for the end of violence against women and sexual harassment. For equality in workplace and more representation in positions of power.
Today is a day to appreciate all women.
I am strong, I am bold and I am proud to be a woman.
My name is Abazuom Precious

“We cannot all succeed when half of us are held back” Malaga Yousafzai..

Happy international women’s day.

Picture source: A painting by Jake Solo.


Inspirational, Reality., Relationship

I’m not perfect
Just perfectly flawed,
With broken edges
That are curved & broad.
I’ve been ripped apart
Only to be stitched,
Sewn with resilience
And a little added bitch.
I’m a cocktail of disaster
A messed up recipe,
With a teaspoon of spice
And a dash of profanity.
I’m a hurricane
So beautiful to view,
Just not a storm
To get sucked into.
With a life forged
Full of rejection
I became perfect
A perfect imperfection


Source: Perfect imperfection.

I saw this beautiful poem on a friend’s blog and decided to share it with everyone. I love it because the writer knows she’s not perfect and decided to own her imperfections.

We all need to learn from this poem to be proud of who we are. You can only work on changing the bad things about you not because you want to impress anyone but because you know it’s the right thing to do… Let’s not forget this month of March is a month of “self forgiveness”. Realize your mistakes, own your past, forgive yourself and try to move own.

Every single thing you have been through is part of live molding you to become who you are expected to be.

It’s all about you….. Never forget that.


Inspirational, Reality.


I would be sharing an extract from the book I’m currently reading titled “After by Anna Todd” on watt pad.

“People spend their entire lives making mistakes and asking for forgiveness, it is the natural cycle of mankind. It’s always been that way and every single religion has a tale of betrayal and forgiveness. Judas Iscariot is the most famous. Judas who was one of Jesus’s twelve disciples betrayed him for only thirty silver coin.

Jesus of course forgave him, that is the essence behind Jesus of Nazareth. “Forgiveness”. It is believed that Judas couldn’t live with the betrayal he had committed so he hung himself, the moral here being that even though he was forgiven by Jesus he was never able to forgive himself.

While he is worse, not being forgiven by the one you betray, whether it’s God, or someone else or not being able to forgive yourself? ”

I decided to share this so that we can all evaluate ourselves and see that no matter what we have done in life, we need to forgive ourselves….

On this note, I say a big happy new month to everyone.. Let this month be a month of forgiveness.

” I can say from experience, forgiving yourself for a mistake is one of the hardest things in life but it is necessary if you want to move forward “

Picture source : Google.


Inspirational, Reality.

Happy new month.. It’s gradually beginning to look like I say happy new month or happy new year a week late. Well, I began my month with a very bad malaria. I can’t remember the last time I was this sick to the extent I was given an 💉 for my fever.. But thank God finally I’m supper better now.

Today I am sharing another poem that we need to keep in mind as we prepare for the up coming 2019 election.


Hear me and hear me right.
The talking drum has decided to speak.
We all have to listen.

We choose him because we trusted him
Our trust he has broken for our good or his?
Does he not see what the masses are going through?
Or has he turned blind as well as deaf?

They come out with sweet dreams only to turn out bitter
I don’t like bitter sweet things
Bitter when tasted and sweet when seen
Majority suffer while a few sing of his praises.

Soon it would be time to choose again
The right man I hope this time
It’s time we choose wisely
And stop selling our future for rice, tomatoes and wrappers

We no longer want old foolish men
Men with no wisdom
Not all old are wise and not all young are foolish

Enough is enough for the wise
For we no longer want experience as our teacher
He who has ears let him hear…………

Conga has spoken
Am only but a drummer girl

Which reminds me, if you are in Nigeria and you are 18 and above and you still don’t have your permanent voters 💳, then you are not serious..

We are quick to criticize the government or the person in power but we won’t move an inch to play our own part in selecting the best leader of your choice… To be totally sincere, I don’t have mine but I have started working on getting it. At least that’s a step. Let’s all go out there and do the right thing. Find out the closest unit to you and get your PVC or get yours transferred if you did it in another state.

Let’s not forget that it’s all about us, our country 🇳🇬 and our future.. Together we can make it.

Does she know your plans?

Inspirational, Reality., Relationship

Dear aunty, I want you to write this down somewhere and never forget. Failure is not an option, and assumption is also an error.

I invited a loving friend of mine to church and he came along with his beautiful girlfriend Melvis. Somewhere between the sermon Pastor made an open call for anyone believing God for marriage this year to come out for prayers, hmmm, come and see bachelors and bachelorettes running to the altar to receive 2018 marriage blessing.

Me? I was just chilling in my chair, that one is not my consign. 😂😂😂

As my friend and i were gossiping to ourselves about the large number of ladies running to the altar, his girlfriend got up and walked to the altar, arhhh, okay, our gossip disappeared, and we just kept silent, it was like somebody poured ice water on his brain, he just remained calm.

After a few seconds my big mouth couldn’t hold it in, so i asked him “James, did you have a fight with your girl?” He said No.

“Are you guys having issues? He said no.

Then why are you sitting here when she’s outside with marriage people, why are you not stepping out to join her in agreement of faith?

He said because he doesn’t have marriage in his plans for this year, so he cannot go out to claim a blessing he is not ready for.

“Okay, but does Marvis know about that?”
He said no.

“Oh, that means you guys have never discussed marriage and future plans before?”

He said they have, but not deeply about marriage, just things about the present.

You see, I can’t stay in a relationship where i cannot look into the future and see myself standing by the altar in a black suit waiting for you in a white dress. I know that not all relationships end that way, but if i cannot picture you in the future I am building for myself, then there is absolutely no need investing my time, or wasting yours.

Dear aunty Marvis,
Alot of you are still hanging on to campaign promises, holding on to all the plans you made 3years ago when the relationship was still fresh, naaa, you need to learn how to set new goals every year. Do you know where your relationship is heading? Have you sat down to talk about 2018 with your man? Or you’re still assuming that all the things he said last year still applies to this year.

Call him up and ask him nicely;

“Baby what plans are we making this year? I would like to know so that I can be praying about them with you”

Find a way to talk about this darling, you might just be there thinking this year is the year, when the young man has plans of pursuing his masters first or going abroad before settling down. Don’t love on assumption, don’t step out to that altar believing he will step out with you, that was what Marvis assumed, but little did she know that the plans have changed.

Find a nice way to ask him, the year is still early to find out how you will be investing your time, energy and resource.

“oh he might think I’m desperate for asking”…
No, that is not desperation, you deserve to know if the goal is the same or if the plans have changed. Because he showered you with gifts last Christmas doesn’t mean the plan is the same, what he said last year doesn’t apply this year, ask him to confess them to you again to be show the focus is the same and feelings has not changed, it is your life. Don’t be the only one stepping out like Marvis, don’t be the only one praying for something the other person is not ready for, those prayers are only effective when two agree.

I hope you caught this very tight?
#confessuonsofagoodman #allisonhyacintho

Copied from – Allison Hyacintho.

If you don’t know him, you need to check him out on Facebook and I promise you would learn a lot from him. He is a great counselor.


Inspirational, Reality.

It’s a beautiful week and it’s almost Christmas…… The most anticipated holiday of the year I guess at least for me. 

What’s your plan for Christmas? Are you traveling out of the country, or are you traveling to your village, or are you among those like my siblings that have no intention of moving an inch or are you like me that can’t wait to turn up for Calabar carnival? 

Yes you heard right! I have been to Calabar a lot in the past but I have never attended the Carnival before. Now you can tell why am so excited and happy… Am going to be sharing my experience of the carnival with everyone when I get there. 

The truth is,  it really doesn’t matter where you are or where you intend going to but what matters more is your happiness and that of your loved ones. 

Today  I decided to share a quote from Denisse Copeland and I hope it keeps your week going. 


Somethings might not have worked out last week, last month, this year like we anticipated but it doesn’t mean God didn’t love you. But it didn’t happen because he had better and greater plans for you and that’s what we should all keep in mind this week…. 

It’s all about you………Never forget that 


Inspirational, Parents, Reality.

For she wept bitterly

When she heard she was gone

Her mother

Her provider and protector

Suddenly started to smile

“it’s only but a dream” she said

Because I know it is

She would return soon

One day, it was dawned on her

It was no longer a dream

Her reality was her fear

Her hope was gone

In the midst of sadness

She must rise and be strong

To strive

And to keep moving

But I fear for her

She seeks solace

In the wrong things

In the wrong way

Will no one speak to her

For I pray for her

That her pain

Wouldn’t led to her mistake

I need her to know

We have all lost someone we love

We only need to let go

And do things

They would’ve been proud of.

This poem is for all those who lost their mother and loved ones… Always know that there’s more to life and God will always be your strength….

This poem was written by me.. I hope it speaks to the right person in the right way.

It’s all about you…………… Never forget that


Inspirational, Parents, Relationship

It’s yet another Saturday…. A day a lot of people are getting married. For some, this is the happiest day of their lives and can’t wait to begin the new chapter of their lives. While for some, this is the beginning of losing themselves. 

Marriage is supposed be a beautiful thing. The next phase of life most women pray day and night for. “After marriage what next”. My boss and I were talking and she said something “the way Nigerian women as an achievement, it scares her”. According to her, she got married at the age of 19 and she asked her self this question “what next?”. In the name of getting married, a lot of women lose their identity. You forget the woman you were. The women who had dreams and aspirations. Don’t get me wrong, I know marriage is all about sacrifice and indulgence. But that doesn’t mean you become another person entirely. 

“A lot of women lose track of what they believe in, what they stand for, what’s important to them and what makes them happy just because they happen to be in a relationship/marriage”. 

A lot of women you see who had successful careers, suddenly quit and become stay home wife/mother,and when you ask them their reason “my husband asked me to. He says he wants me to focus on the family”. I really find it funny. Well most men give their wives the option of going into business while others don’t. Forgetting that your only increasing the burden on yourself as well as making your wife “useless”. 


“Losing yourself also means losing some very important things like perspective and feelings of self-worth—all of which you need to have intact to see anything clearly. So, no, you probably won’t see it if you’re losingyourself in a relationship”. 

A lot of people think that the process of losing oneself in a relationship is very obvious—that it always involves things like dressing exactly like the partner, assuming all of his friends, giving up their careers to be a kept woman and disappearing from social media. Most women think, “If I were losing myself in a relationship, I’d know it.” But, by the very nature of losing one’s self, you won’t see it coming when it happens. Losing yourself also means losing some very important things like perspective and feelings of self-worth—all of which you need to have intact to see anything clearly. So, no, you probably won’t see it if you’re losing yourself in a relationship. You just have to know the signs ahead of time—write them down somewhere—so if it ever happens you can take a long hard look in the mirror and say, “It’s happening…” Here are signs you lose yourself in relationships.

You suck at texting your friends back

You’ve started getting a lot of, “Hello?” texts, “Are you alive?” messages and “Alright, guess you don’t want to answer me…” follow-ups. You’re so lost in the relationship you can’t take two seconds to respond to your friends. 

A small argument can ruin your week

Fighting with your partner sucks, but it shouldn’t ruin your week. It should destroy your ability to enjoy the things you used to enjoy, like yoga, happy hour, walks on the beach, etc. You’re too consumed with the relationship if that’s happening.

You think a lot before you speak

You find yourself doing a lot of thinking before you speak. You want every sentence to come out perfectly…That’s probably because you’re afraid of losing your partner because you’ve lost yourself, so you never want to accidentally upset him.

Your goals have come to a halt

You’ve stopped attending that night class, going to those networking events, sending out query letters, attending work happy hours and such. You now spend all the free time you used to spend on forwarding your career with your partner.

You only feel present when he’s there

If you’re not with your partner, you cannot focus on the people around you or the thing you are doing. Moments without him just seem like wasted moments. That could be love…but it could also mean that you don’t know how to be happy without your partner anymore.

You can’t remember the last time you did what you wanted to do

Let’s see: last weekend you hiked to that monument he wanted to see and saw the movie he wanted to watch. The weekend before that you visited his old college friend in another town. The weekend before that the two of you worked on his work presentation…

The thought of being alone terrifies you

If the thought of being alone terrifies you, then you’ve definitely lost yourself in the relationship. It’s normal to feel very sad at the concept of losing someone you love, but it’s not normal to feel like you wouldn’t know how to function.

You feel a burst of anger and resentment

When you lose yourself in a relationship, you end up making too many compromises. You don’t speak up much, you don’t say what you want or need, and you mostly just lay down to the will of the other person. This will lead you to feel strong and bizarre bursts of anger and resentment.

It would be nice if we check this amazing book out.. Am so sure it’s going to be very helpful . Psychoanalyst Beverly Engel, author of “Loving Him Without Losing Yourself,” (Currently on Amazon or any other online bookstore). 

The more we give up of ourselves, the less we are the woman our sweetie was attracted to in the first place, says Sherry Argov in “Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl — A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship.” “The nice girl thinks she’s giving up something to get something better in return. She gives up control over her own life. When the time comes for her to get what she expected, she winds up disappointed. In addition to being empty-handed, she’s depleted.”

I know it takes more to be a wife/husband and a parent in a relationship but it’s best you find out what your partner expects of you after your marriage to know if it works for you. Like they say, love is not the only criteria for marriage. The more you lose yourself, they more you become frustrated and gradually start falling put of love with your partner… 

It’s never late. It’s time you find our those things you have always wanted to achieve and start doing it…. Giving up on your dreams, it’s not a sign of love..It can only make you a bitter person. Don’t think that only women tend to lose them selves in marriage, most men do to. So this post is for everyone. 

It’s always about you…….. Never forget that. 


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Inspirational, Relationship

Today’s post is on long distance relationship and how best to maintain them.. A lot of us prefer being in a relationship were we don’t find it difficult to see each other and distance isn’t really an issues.

I know sometimes, we have this believe that long distance relationships are never going to work. Most of our friends and family discourage us from it. I know it’s not an easy one. No body says it’s ever going to be easy. There are going to be times when things will get complicated, you could get sad and lonely at times. 

The same way we see more of the disadvantages of long distance relationship, I would gladly tell us that there are more advantages to being in a long distance relationship. This type of relationship makes the simplest things the sweetest… Simple things like eating together at the same table, taking a walk together and feeling each other’s touch… 
I don’t know if it’s just me, but I noticed that most of us (especially our parents) take a lot of things in our (their)  relationship for granted… Couples don’t do the simplest things like eat together at the same time, send simple messages to each other. In fact simple little exciting things.. Am not just talking about young couples, or your boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance /fiancee, am also talking about married couples… I constantly say this that “marriage can be exciting”…. Yes go ahead and say what does she know? She’s not married. Yes! I might not know a lot but I have seen and read about married people who do these things I  picture and teach.. I feel it’s long distance like this, that makes you grateful for your partner when ever you finally have to be with them. You become supper excited and anxious… It’s like you just fell in love for the first time. Permit me to say, but most times I feel distance sometimes makes the relationship stronger. 

It’s really not going to be easy. Especially if the distance is somewhere you really need to plan well before embarking on just to see your partner.. We are constantly boreded about our partners fidelity, about the love dying, about the different temptation that we have to go through just to be loyal… For most people, time difference is also a bigger challenge for them. 

 Below are a list of different things to do to keep your long distance relationship going  and exciting (how best to maintain a long distance relationship). 

  • Try to communicate regularly and creativelyGreet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happening, however mundane some of the things may seem. To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.
  • Talk dirty with each other. Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. Sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Not only is sex a biological need, it is an emotional one as well. Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with sexual innuendos and provocative descriptions. Sexy puns work pretty well too. 
  • Avoid “dangerous” situations. Also, It could be easy for you to fall into the trap which you, unconsciously or not, set up for yourself by “hanging out” with your office eye-candy after work, or going out with a girl or guy from your past who has been flirting with you. You need to recognize the dangers before entering into the situation. Don’t just listen to your heart. Listen to your mind too.
  • Do similar things. Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about. This is a good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.
  • Make visits to each otherVisits are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. which are all common to other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships. It will be like fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows and butterflies everywhere. 
  • Stay honest with each otherTalk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. it’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.
  • Video-call whenever possible. Because looking into each other eyes and hearing each others voices can make everything feel alright again.
  • Stay positive. You need to be constantly injecting positive energy into the long distance relationship to keep it alive. Yes, the waiting can be painful and you can sometimes feel lonesome but you need to remind yourself that the fruits at the end will be sweet as heaven. One good trick to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be thankful that you have someone to love — someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things, like the hand-made letter that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each others health and safety.
  • Know each others schedules. It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free, so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Know the small and big events that are taking place or will take place in each others life e.g. college mid-terms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews and etc. This is especially essential when the both of you are living in different time zones.
  • Have a goal in mind. “What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What about the future?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourselves. The truth is, no couple can be in a long distance relationship for forever. Eventually we all need to settle down.
  • So make a plan with each otherDo up a timeline, marking down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal. It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same timezone, both of you are still working together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.
  • Never use the silent treatment. Your relationship must be built on trust and communication. This silent treatment is damaging to any relationship, but it’s deadly for a long distance one. If you are upset, tell your partner you need time to think and talk about the problem.

  • Talk about serious things. Conversations about money, jobs, education and the future need to be discussed. For the relationship to be successful, you both need to be on the same page considering these subjects.

  • Surprise each other. Every healthy relationship needs spontaneous acts of love. Send surprise gifts, or plan a surprise visit.

  • Never use silent treatment : A lot of us men and women are quity of this… We think silence is always golden. Well it’s really not. Most of us use this method as a way of punishment. “am not going to talk to him/her until he/she apologies”… Well don’t forget that the less you talk, the more you drift apart and that way, gives opportunity to distractions.. 

In actual sense, it’s important you note that having a long distance relationship isn’t something you expect your partner to automatically be OK with especially if you both didn’t get into the relationship on that ground. Therefore, I advice that you call your partner, explain everything in detail and make sure he/she understands and that you both are on the same page.  

“If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart ” Anonymous. 

What’s your opinion on being in a long distance relationship? Is it something you are currently in, or is it something you don’t think you can handle and why? If you are currently in this relationship, let’s hear how it’s been working out for you and your advice for others who might be thinking of embarking on it…..

It’s always about you…… Never forget that. 

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