Health · Reality. · Relationship

ADDICTION 

I know this post might be very lengthy to read but I beg that you take your time and read not forgetting to share it because you can never tell who you might be saving. 

WHAT IS ADDICTION? 
The fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance or activity. 

The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit – forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that is cessation causes severe trauma. 

A lot of us think addiction is only related to drugs and alcohol. But the truth is we have other things anyone can be addicted to. Examples are : Games, pornography, Sex, social media to mention but a few. 

Today I decided to talk about one aspect of the above mentioned types of addiction that most people don’t even realize they have while those who know, don’t think they need help. Sexual addiction is my main focus for the day. Am going to share a little research I did on it and put down the different websites as usual so you can check it out to get more information. 

What is sexual addiction? 
Sexual addiction is a condition in which an individual cannot manage their sexual behavior. Persistent sexual thoughts affect their ability to work, maintain relationships, and fulfil their daily activities.

Other terms for sexual addiction are sexual dependency, hypersexuality, and compulsive sexual behavior. It is also known as nymphomania in females and satyriasis in men.

Research also has found that sex addicts often come from dysfunctional families and are more likely than non-sex addicts to have been abused. One study found that 82 percent of sex addicts reported being sexually abused as children. Sex addicts often describe their parents as rigid, distant and uncaring. These families, including the addicts themselves, are more likely to be substance abusers. One study found that 80 percent of recovering sex addicts report some type of addiction in their families of origin.

While sexual addiction shares some features with substance addiction, the person is addicted to an activity, not a substance. Treatment may help, but without treatment, it may get worse.

Fast facts on sexual addiction Sexual addiction prevents people from managing their sexual behavior. Why it happens is unclear. It can have a severe impact on a person’s life, but key bodies, such as the American Psychological Association (APA), have not yet established it as a diagnosable condition. Typical behaviors include compulsive masturbation, persistent use of pornography, exhibitionism, voyeurism, extreme acts of lewd sex, and the failure to resist sexual impulses. Treatment centers and self-help groups can help with sexual addiction.What Are the Different Types of Sexual Addictions?There are no distinct categories, but sexual addictions can come in different forms, including addiction to: Pornography, Prostitution,Masturbation or fantasy, Sadistic or masochisticbehavior, Exhibition/Voyeurism, Other excessive sexual pursuits.Emotional Symptoms of Sex AddictionIf you or someone you love suffers from a sex addiction, you might not have healthy boundaries. If your husband is addicted to pornor sex, you may feel alienated, isolated, depressed, angry, or humiliated and need treatment yourself. If you are addicted to sex, you might become easily involved with people sexually or emotionally regardless of how well you know them, according to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Because most sex addicts fear being abandoned, they might stay in relationships that aren’t healthy, or they may jump from relationship to relationship. When alone, they might feel empty or incomplete. They might also sexualize feelings like guilt, loneliness or fear.

Physical Symptoms of Sex Addiction

Although a sex addiction or pornography addiction can create many physical side effects, few physical symptoms of this disorder exist. However, the most common physical sex addict symptoms you might notice from having a sexual addiction is feeling immobilized due to sexual or emotional obsessions.

How do you know if you are an addict? 

It is best to consult with a healthcare professional for proper evaluation of your sex addiction, however, you may also want to look out for the following signs:

  • You feel powerless over how you act sexually.
  • Your sexual choices are making your life unmanageable.
  • You feel shame, embarrassment or even self-loathing over your sexual acts.
  • You promise yourself you’ll change, but fail to keep those promises.
  • You’re so preoccupied with sex it becomes like a ritual to you.

Get Help For Sex Addiction

It is important to understand that although sex and porn addiction are not “formally” diagnosable, these conditions exist and often present with very adverse consequences and high levels of distress, guilt, and emotional turmoil. If you can relate to the symptoms mentioned above, or know somebody who meets these criteria, do not hesitate to ask for help.

Some treatment options include:

  • Individual therapy – 30-60 minute sessions with a certified mental health professional, focused on your sexually compulsive behaviors and any co-occurring disorders.
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – Focuses on the idea that our behaviors, emotions, and thoughts are all interrelated and works to change negative thoughts to positive thoughts and self-talk.
  • Psychodynamic therapy – Built around the premise that unconscious memories and conflicts affect our behavior, Psychodynamic therapy uncovers early childhood influencers of current habits or present factors that contribute to the current sex addiction.
  • Dialectical-Behavioral Therapy (DBT) – Contains four components: skills training group, individual treatment, DBT phone coaching, and consultation team and these four components are designed to teach four skills: mindfulness, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, and emotion regulation.
  • Group therapy – Led by qualified therapists, group therapy is designed to replace negative and detrimental behaviors with pro-social and positive ones. It provides the addict with assurance that he or she is not alone in his or her experiences.
  • Couple’s counseling or Marriage counseling – This can be very beneficial for the sex addict and his or her partner. Couple’s counseling can help to improve communication skills, trust, and healthy sexual functioning between partners.
  • 12-step recovery – Sex Addicts Anonymous imitates the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous and is a group-based model focused on acknowledging one’s powerlessness and willingness to live a life free of addiction.
  • Inpatient therapy – There are some inpatient recovery centers designed to treat sex and porn addiction. The patient resides at the recovery facility for the duration of treatment so that he or she can focus on the healing process without the distractions and temptations of everyday life.

What Causes an Addiction to Sex?

Research has shown that there are a lot of causes of sexual addiction ranging from biological, physiological and social. Check (https://www.psychguides.com/guides/sex-addiction-symptoms-causes-and-effects) for more details. I would also add sexual abuse. Sexual abuse plays an important role in the life of the abused. Most sexual abused persons either hate sex or become an addict for sex. 

I know most people find it difficult to talk about sex but sex addiction is a very silent problem “sickness” that needs to be addressed and I hope those suffering from this problem find the right people to talk to and help them find solutions. 

More to life is here to help solve our unspoken problems that no one dares to speak about. 


It’s all about you…. Never forget that. 


REFERENCES :

Cambridge English Dictionary 

Www.dictionary.com 

Www.medicalnewstoday.com

Www.Psychguides.com



Inspirational · Parents · Reality.

SHE 

For she wept bitterly

When she heard she was gone

Her mother

Her provider and protector

Suddenly started to smile

“it’s only but a dream” she said

Because I know it is

She would return soon

One day, it was dawned on her

It was no longer a dreamer

Her reality was her fear

Her hope was gone

In the midst of sadness

She must rise and be strong

To strive

And to keep moving

But I fear for her

She seeks solace

In the wrongs

In the wrong way

Will no one speak to her

For I pray for her

That her pain

Wouldn’t led to her mistake

I need her to know

We have  all lost someone we love

We only need to let go

And do things

They would’ve been proud of. 

This poem is for all those who lost their mother and loved ones… Always know that there’s more to life and God will always be your strength…. 


This poem was written by me.. I hope it speaks to the right person in the right way. 

It’s all about you……………  Never forget that 

Reality. · Uncategorized

TAKE ME BACK! 

Lately I have been thinking a lot about “What if”. There are a lot of what if’s in my life right now that sometimes, I wish I could be taken back in time. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to go back in time just to correct my mistakes. No! I just want those little things we had before but can barely get now. What if it’s possible to go back in time, will you take that opportunity? 

Take me back to the time when we neither had Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter or Instagram. 
To the time when people were sincere and nice. To the time when friendship meant a lot. To the time when we could communicate without speaking. 

What has happened to us? 

We are now less than who we were. Bothered by unnecessary things. Forgetting what and who mattered most. 

Back to the time when ladies would be seen before been heard. Take me back to the time when preserving our culture and family values were our priority. 

Back to the time when we had peace in our country. Back to the time when #10 was a big money and of great value. 

Take me back to the time when we would gather around by 8pm on Thursdays to watch super story not now when we only watch celebrity stories…. 

Back in time when the thought of traveling to the village for Christmas was exciting. Not now when we no longer see going to the village as fun. 

Take me back in time when going to church wasn’t able option not now when when we think we are grown enough to know if we want to go or not. 

Take me back in time when the welfare of the church members mattered most, not now when only what matters most it’s the pocket of its members. 

For my greatest wish, take me back in time when I had my late brother by my side so I could tell him how much I love him and how much I would miss him in future. In time when he was little. 

Though I appreciate where I am today, I total wish somethings could be the same…

What in your childhood or past would you wish you could be taken back to? Kindly share and let’s help rekindle those memories. 



It’s all about you…….. Never forget that. 

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Reality.

BEAUTY OF NATURE

Something in my mind makes me wonder 

How’s beautiful is the bright 

Clear sky above us

I say to myself 

What a glorious sight it is 

There’s something noticeable about

The sun when it appears 

It proclaims as it rises 

How marvelous such a thing is

Made by the Lord God Almighty

At noon it dries up the land

No one on earth can stand it’s blazing heat

When I look at the rainbows 

I will always praise it’s creator

And I will say to myself 

How magnificent and how radiant 

It’s beauty……… 

I wrote this poem in 2009. I just found it in my book of poems and I decided to share it with the picture I took of nature one day on my way home from work in 2017…

In the midst of this bad happenings  in Libya, I want us to stop, breathe in and observe the beauty of nature around you and be thankful for who you are, where you are and the people around you. Most especially, be grateful to God… 

It’s all about the beauty of nature today….. After reading, kindly take a picture of anything that signifies nature and share with us. Writing what amazes you about it…. 

It’s a challenge. Let’s see who posts the best of nature amazing pictures… 

Reality. · Uncategorized

 MODERN DAY SLAVERY 

Today I want to talk about the slavery happening in Libya. I refused to put the actual pictures of the incident for those that are photo sensitive…. I got this picture I used above from Facebook. Truth be told, I don’t even know whose work it is. Am sorry for using it without your permission. 

​It has become rampant on all the social networks and most newspapers, the recent happenings  in Libya… 

Modern day slavery… I call it “modern” because, in this day and time, this sort of thing can be happening. It’s really appalling. It’s totally man’s inhumanity to man. So slave trade is no longer by whites to blacks, but now by blacks to blacks… Whether it’s blacks selling blacks, or white selling blacks or even white buying blacks, no body cares.. It just has to stop. What is happening? In the quest to find a better life, we end up trapping ourselves in the Devils den or worse, end up losing our lives.. 

When you ask yourself, why are people running out of the country? You don’t need to search too far for answers.. It’s totally staring right there at our faces. Poverty and corruption. The rich gets richer, and the poor? We already know the answer. We all know exactly what’s happening in Nigeria. It’s not a new story to be told… The economy is getting worse, graduates are at home doing nothing. Previously, we were told to go to school because that’s the only way you can make it. But now, we are been told to go into agriculture.. Thanks for the advice but what are the finances available to us? 

No body wants to stay in Nigeria any more. Everyone is looking for better opportunities. We all think leaving for Europe will be a better opportunity. Truth be told, despite not being too easy as we think out there, it is indeed better than Nigeria. Well that’s my view at the moment. 

My question is, is going through sea an act of desperation or ignorance? Maybe few people might have succeeded this way but the risk involved is something else. I really don’t think those involved would consider the risk involved. Most of us hearing and reading about this happenings will say “eh! Shebi they wanted to go to the country illegally, so they got what’s coming to them”. Let’s not forget that there are different categories of people there. There  are some who must have been denied visas a lot, some who don’t have the finances to go through the legal way, some who are just ignorant and some who are too desperate. What ever the case maybe, it’s not justifiable for them to face what ever they are going through in Libya. Imagine Libya… Chai! Brother selling brother for just $400 dollar. Equivalent of about 145,000 Naira. 

Who exactly is doing this selling? Are they the people been paid to cross this Nigerians and other blacks? The right questions needs to be asked and this act has to be stopped and the perpetrators be brought to justice…. 

Below was gotten from Daily post Nigeria. Femi Fani-Kayode, former Minister of Aviation, on Wednesday asserted that most Nigerians sold into slavery in Libya were natives of Igbo, Edo and Yoruba.

The two-time former minister asserted that 75% of those sold into slavery have their “organs harvested, bodies mutilated and roasted like suya.”

He maintained that President Muhammadu Buhari has remained silent over the issue because most of the victims were not from the North.

In a tweet via his social media handle, the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, Chieftain noted that Buhari’s silence was an indication that the current administration is evil.”

Could this be the real truth or is it just a political statement? Be this allegation true or not, why is the government silent about this? 

One of the immigrants in the detention campswho was interviewed, a 21-year-old Nigerian man identified as Victory, said he left his hometown in Edo State and had spent more than N1 million and 16 months trying to reach Europe before he was captured and sold at a slave auction. ” ( Vanguardngr. Com) You can imagine, paying N1 million to be crossed to Europe. Most of us would say he could have invested the money. Well yes he could have invested the money but you don’t know what he must have considered. Shop rent, house rent and maybe how much it would take him to do what ever he wanted to do.. Don’t be surprised he must have sold everything he had to raise this amount of money. 

I appreciate the fact that most celebrities in and out of Nigeria, are coming out to speak against this.. But I have to be sincere to say it goes beyond coming out to speak against this…. We need action from the right source… 

Why is Nigerian government silent…? 

What can be done….? 

I Abazuom Precious C, stand against slavery….. 

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