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MORE TO LIFE 


There are times, when things don’t seem to be working as planned or as we wish, don’t worry. There’s a reason for everything. Don’t see it as a delay. See it as God perfecting his plans for you. His ways aren’t ours and his thoughts aren’t our thoughts. 
Always know that there’s MORE TO LIFE as long as you trust God to do his “THING”. 

Have a very beautiful Monday and a wonderful week… 

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TAKE ME BACK! 

Lately I have been thinking a lot about “What if”. There are a lot of what if’s in my life right now that sometimes, I wish I could be taken back in time. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to go back in time just to correct my mistakes. No! I just want those little things we had before but can barely get now. What if it’s possible to go back in time, will you take that opportunity? 

Take me back to the time when we neither had Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter or Instagram. 
To the time when people were sincere and nice. To the time when friendship meant a lot. To the time when we could communicate without speaking. 

What has happened to us? 

We are now less than who we were. Bothered by unnecessary things. Forgetting what and who mattered most. 

Back to the time when ladies would be seen before been heard. Take me back to the time when preserving our culture and family values were our priority. 

Back to the time when we had peace in our country. Back to the time when #10 was a big money and of great value. 

Take me back to the time when we would gather around by 8pm on Thursdays to watch super story not now when we only watch celebrity stories…. 

Back in time when the thought of traveling to the village for Christmas was exciting. Not now when we no longer see going to the village as fun. 

Take me back in time when going to church wasn’t able option not now when when we think we are grown enough to know if we want to go or not. 

Take me back in time when the welfare of the church members mattered most, not now when only what matters most it’s the pocket of its members. 

For my greatest wish, take me back in time when I had my late brother by my side so I could tell him how much I love him and how much I would miss him in future. In time when he was little. 

Though I appreciate where I am today, I total wish somethings could be the same…

What in your childhood or past would you wish you could be taken back to? Kindly share and let’s help rekindle those memories. 



It’s all about you…….. Never forget that. 

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DON’T WORRY ABOUT FAILURE. 

Happy new month to everyone reading… I know it’s the 6th day of the month and it’s pretty late to say happy new month but you know what they say, “it’s better late than never”…

Two days ago, on my way back from a stroll, I overhead two men discussing about their lives and how the year was already ending and they had nothing to show for it…. One blamed it on “Buhari’s regime” and wouldn’t travel back home because he feels embarrassed, while the other said he just doesn’t understand what’s happening. 

Yesterday I saw this post card in between my old books and after reading it’s content, I decided to share with everyone. I think it’s fate that I saw it although some would call it coincidence….. 

You’ve failed many times, although you may not remember. 

You fell down the first time you tried to walk. You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim, didn’t you? How many times did you fall off the first time you tried to ride a bicycle? 

R.H. Macy, the founder of the popular store Macy’s failed seven times before his store in New York caught on. English novelist John Creasey got his stories rejected 753 tines. Eventually he had 564 books published. Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times, but he also hit 714 home runs. Many times we don’t even try our chances because of the fear of failing. 

Don’t worry about failure, rather, worry about the chances you middle when you don’t even try. 

The truth is yes the year is already ending and a lot of us are yet to achieve one third of what we had planned out for the year. While a lot of us did achieve more than we had bargained for this year. Whatever the case may be, never stop pushing or trying harder each time. 

Last week, there was this comedy statement trending in all the social media. “A woman who her pastor declared this year as her year of marriage, upliftment and promotion is waiting till December 31st to confront him”. Might sound funny but a lot has happened this year. People died, we lost a loved one despite all our prayers and seed sowing , we failed an important promotion we read hard for, we didn’t get the contract we prayed so hard for, we were dumped by our spouse we dated or were married to for years, we lost our jobs, we still didn’t get married this year, we still didn’t get pregnant, and so much more. 
There’s one thing I want us to know. That the year hasn’t ended and a lot of things can still happen. Our miracle of the 11th hour. I also want you to learn something today. It’s not going to be easy, but let’s learn to count our blessings instead of our losses or our would’ve been achievements.. 

What ever situation you find yourself in now, think about the next person who is going through worse and be grateful. God has a reason for everything even if hearing yourself  say it sometimes sounds weird because no matter how strong you’re, you get tempted to ask “God Why?” 

It’s a month of Christmas. A month of celebration, of thanksgiving, of sharing and appreciation… Who doesn’t love CHRISTMAS! 

It’s all about you………………….Never give up! 

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 MODERN DAY SLAVERY 

Today I want to talk about the slavery happening in Libya. I refused to put the actual pictures of the incident for those that are photo sensitive…. I got this picture I used above from Facebook. Truth be told, I don’t even know whose work it is. Am sorry for using it without your permission. 

​It has become rampant on all the social networks and most newspapers, the recent happenings  in Libya… 

Modern day slavery… I call it “modern” because, in this day and time, this sort of thing can be happening. It’s really appalling. It’s totally man’s inhumanity to man. So slave trade is no longer by whites to blacks, but now by blacks to blacks… Whether it’s blacks selling blacks, or white selling blacks or even white buying blacks, no body cares.. It just has to stop. What is happening? In the quest to find a better life, we end up trapping ourselves in the Devils den or worse, end up losing our lives.. 

When you ask yourself, why are people running out of the country? You don’t need to search too far for answers.. It’s totally staring right there at our faces. Poverty and corruption. The rich gets richer, and the poor? We already know the answer. We all know exactly what’s happening in Nigeria. It’s not a new story to be told… The economy is getting worse, graduates are at home doing nothing. Previously, we were told to go to school because that’s the only way you can make it. But now, we are been told to go into agriculture.. Thanks for the advice but what are the finances available to us? 

No body wants to stay in Nigeria any more. Everyone is looking for better opportunities. We all think leaving for Europe will be a better opportunity. Truth be told, despite not being too easy as we think out there, it is indeed better than Nigeria. Well that’s my view at the moment. 

My question is, is going through sea an act of desperation or ignorance? Maybe few people might have succeeded this way but the risk involved is something else. I really don’t think those involved would consider the risk involved. Most of us hearing and reading about this happenings will say “eh! Shebi they wanted to go to the country illegally, so they got what’s coming to them”. Let’s not forget that there are different categories of people there. There  are some who must have been denied visas a lot, some who don’t have the finances to go through the legal way, some who are just ignorant and some who are too desperate. What ever the case maybe, it’s not justifiable for them to face what ever they are going through in Libya. Imagine Libya… Chai! Brother selling brother for just $400 dollar. Equivalent of about 145,000 Naira. 

Who exactly is doing this selling? Are they the people been paid to cross this Nigerians and other blacks? The right questions needs to be asked and this act has to be stopped and the perpetrators be brought to justice…. 

Below was gotten from Daily post Nigeria. Femi Fani-Kayode, former Minister of Aviation, on Wednesday asserted that most Nigerians sold into slavery in Libya were natives of Igbo, Edo and Yoruba.

The two-time former minister asserted that 75% of those sold into slavery have their “organs harvested, bodies mutilated and roasted like suya.”

He maintained that President Muhammadu Buhari has remained silent over the issue because most of the victims were not from the North.

In a tweet via his social media handle, the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, Chieftain noted that Buhari’s silence was an indication that the current administration is evil.”

Could this be the real truth or is it just a political statement? Be this allegation true or not, why is the government silent about this? 

One of the immigrants in the detention campswho was interviewed, a 21-year-old Nigerian man identified as Victory, said he left his hometown in Edo State and had spent more than N1 million and 16 months trying to reach Europe before he was captured and sold at a slave auction. ” ( Vanguardngr. Com) You can imagine, paying N1 million to be crossed to Europe. Most of us would say he could have invested the money. Well yes he could have invested the money but you don’t know what he must have considered. Shop rent, house rent and maybe how much it would take him to do what ever he wanted to do.. Don’t be surprised he must have sold everything he had to raise this amount of money. 

I appreciate the fact that most celebrities in and out of Nigeria, are coming out to speak against this.. But I have to be sincere to say it goes beyond coming out to speak against this…. We need action from the right source… 

Why is Nigerian government silent…? 

What can be done….? 

I Abazuom Precious C, stand against slavery….. 

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MOTIVATIONAL WORDS TO KEEP YOU GOING… 

Good morning dearly beloved… It’s another beautiful Monday. The first working day of the week. Hope we all had an amazing and relaxing weekend.. For me I did. I got a mini birthday outing to SALAMANDER CAFE in Wuse 2 Abuja. Well, will tell you more about it later.

Today, I would like to share some inspirational words from Iyanla Vanzant. I watched a video of the interview she granted on OWN (OPRAH WINFREY NETWORK) and I decided to write down her words and share them with everyone… I hope you read and get inspired and motivated like I did because that’s the whole point.

Oprah: IS it selfish to put yourself first? 

Iyanla: it’s not selfish to put yourself first. It’s self full. It’s self full to ve the first, to be as good as possible to you. To take care of you, to keep you whole and healthy. That doesn’t mean you disregard everything and everyone. But you want to come with your cup full. “My cup runneth over” what comes out of the cup is yours, what’s in the cup is mine. But I’ve got to keep my cup full. 

Oprah : There’s no person in the world that you can find that don’t say “I just find it difficult to trust people” but you say that’s not the issue..

Iyanla : Learning to trust yourself is the real issue not learning to trust others.. Trusting yourself that you’re going to make the right choice. Trusting yourself that you can hear that voice and follow it. Trusting yourself that when people betray, abandon and insult you, that you would be OK. 

OPRAH : What about boundaries?

Iyanla : People violate you because you don’t have a clear boundaries, because you didn’t tell them how to behave in your life and they run amok.

Oprah : A lot of people hold back secrets about themselves from their family….

Iyanla : Guilt and shame. You have to love and respect people enough to tell them the truth. 

To end her inspirational words, she encourages everyone not to let your present situation pull you down. She gave an instance of someone saying  “Am a just a single parent and I can’t do it”. According to Iyanla, we should learn to STATE THE FACTS AND SPEAK THE TRUTH. This might be your reality but this story isn’t helping.. It’s OK to say “am raising a child without the benefit of a partner.  You need to acknowledge the fact that when you have God, you have it all. 

This new week, I would like us to keep 4 important things in mind.

 1)I want us to learn how to take charge of our lives. Try to be self full in everything you do from this week onwards. 

2)We should learn to trust in ourselves because that’s the only way we can move further… Self doubt is the beginning of your doom. It’s OK to think well and question your next step but remember you have a God whose ever ready to listen, guide and direct your every step…  

3) Let’s not forget we are in charge of whoever we let into our life.. The fact that they are in our life and remain there is our choice and don’t have the right to run amok…. It’s time we learn how to have a clear boundaries… 

4) No matter how difficult it’s going to be, let’s start this week to tell the truth… Say the truth to everyone you meet because you love and respect them. Let them be the judge of how they accept it. Don’t hide under the shadow of “not wanting to hurt them”. It’s going to be a gradual process getting use to. But get ready to keep it as part of your life. 


Am happy to have seen this post and like I said that’s the reason why I decided to share it with everyone.


It’s all about you……… Never forget that. 

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WHEN IS THE RIGHT AGE TO MOVE OUT OF YOUR PARENTS HOUSE.

It’s a beautiful Friday in Abuja despite the hot sun…. I don’t understand this weather. I was thinking this period, we would’ve had a better weather.

Thank God it’s friday…..What’s happening where you are today? How are you enjoying your city?  Today i have an interesting topic to discuss with everyone.

I have been thinking about this topic for a while and wanted to ask what’s the right age to move out of parents house or if there is any particular age you must move out?

I can’t wait to hear what most of us have to say about today’s topic. Few months ago, my kid sister and i jokingly told our mum we would like to move out. And like a typical Nigerian woman, she said “to where?” Out we responded. “Ok na, be going. Do you want me to help you pack? “. Every Nigerian knows the meaning of that answer.

Few weeks later, my sister brought up this same topic with my mum and we finally understood her reason. According to her, why would we want to move out of the house to a place where we would be paying rent while our parents stay in the same city with us. “If you are working in a different city where you have no choice but to find a house, then that’s a different situation” She said. Ideally, you are expected to move from your parents house to your husband house.

Why are we different? I mean we Nigerians, we think and see things in a different way most times. Not that its a bad thing but when you take a look at the westerners, they tend to move out of the house at a very tender age. For some, at the age of 18, 19, 20. In fact, by 21 if you still leave with your parents, it becomes a big deal (i stand to be corrected). Most parents feel that you have gotten to the when you need to be independent of your parents. No matter how difficult it might seem for them, it can’t be compared to we in Nigeria. They can easily get jobs, some usually run two different jobs, some leave on mortgage. Here in Nigeria, graduates find it difficult to get a job let alone an undergraduate.. But as i fondly say, it’s well.

My colleagues and i are where talking about when exactly is the right time to move out of our parents house. It was one of my colleague who was talking about moving out of her sister’s house that prompted our conversation. She actually moved in with her sister who moved out of their parents house as soon as she was done with her university. She in turn moved in with her sister when she entered the university and now she’s done, she feels its time for her to move out too.

“But your parents both stay in Abuja and your sister also stays in Abuja, so why would you still want to waste funds and live on your own….Its not necessary” I said

Elizabeth who is also my my colleague and a yourba girl concurred with my mum. Her reason wasn’t just about the finance that would be seen as a waste of finance but that in a typical yourba family, a woman is expected to stay with her parents until she’s getting married. Meaning you living out side your parents house is assumed you are getting married. She went further to explain that when you tell most Nigerian women that you want to move out of their house because you feel you are older and maybe you think you are financially independent a little, they would think you are looking for an avenue to be free to do what ever you like and stay out late. This reason might be the reason for some people while it might not be for some.

Well as for me, i would like to have my own space. Space not necessary because any one is troubling me at home ( family house), but because i just feel am older and too old to still be living with my parents. Living with your parents has its on pros and cons. But on the second hand, st aying with my parents saves me a lot of cost. I am free of paying house rents, electric bills, buying food stuff. Any thing i decide to buy for the house, is because i choose to. By staying with them, i can save up the little i feel i have and put it into something profitable.

A friend of mine of Facebook and i were taking on and he asked me “Do you live with your parents?” when i said yes, he was shocked. At your age he asked? Is anything wrong with that? I asked. I couldn’t tell if i should be  angry or not. I gave him the benefit of doubt that he wasn’t insulting me. He gave me his reason why he was surprised to hear i was living with my parents at my age.  “I started leaving on my own at a very young age and it’s been me all the way”. In a way though, am envious of you for staying with your family” He said.

Moving out of your parents’ house is a major decision. It is essential that you consider the impact of moving out. Your budget, career, and maturity level will all affect your first adventure into the real world where you will have many responsibilities.

The following are the differnt ways to know if you are ready to move out of your parents home.

  • Know if your financially stable –  Add up all the income you receive in one month after taxes (most paychecks will have taxes already deducted from them). If your income fluctuates slightly, figure out a monthly average by looking at the past six months of your pay. If your income fluctuates wildly every month, moving out might not be the best option.
  • Make yourself a budget for rent by calculating 28% of your monthly income. Multiply your monthly income by .28 to find the largest sum of rent you can afford.Keep this number handy, and use it to find affordable housing.
  • Calculate your fixed expenses. These expenses include: rent, monthly loans, car insurance and car loans, credit card(s), health insurance (if it isn’t deducted from your salary), phone, internet, utilities, cable, and any other sort of debt. You will also want to figure out how much you spend per month on food, entertainment, clothes, gas, and miscellaneous shopping.

So you tell me, have you ever thought of moving out? What were your reasons? when exactly is the right age to move out of your parents home? How do you feel about living with your parents till you get married as a woman? For men, when exactly do you plan on leaving home if you haven’t and if you have, at what age did you leave?

 

                It’s all about you………………Never forget that!

 

REFRENCES:

http://www.wikihow.com

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WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR? 

It’s a beautiful morning…. It’s the first day of a wonderful month…. It’s my birth month. Happy new month to everyone…. 

Today am feeling grateful for a lot of things..

What exactly does it mean to be grateful? “feeling or showing an appreciation for something done or received”.. According to Terence Brown,” the answer is the sense of fulfilment you feel when something has made you happy. The feeling of elation you get when you really think about the luxuries in your life.”

Being grateful is not taking anything for granted. Looking at your life – the good and the bad – embracing it, and realizing that ultimately you have power to guide this life that you’ve been blessed with in whatever direction you desire. It may not be easy, it may not be fair, and you will encounter resistance along the way, but at the end of the day you will look back and marvel at your resilience!

I asked around what does it mean to be grateful? So many people have different opinion about it. 

  • Being aware & acknowledging that you are blessed with the basic needs & necessities of life, w/o you asking or struggling for it, like food, water, clothing.
  • Being aware that, you have parents , who have given birth to you & they did their best to provide you, whatever best they could, sacrificing their pleasures. 
  • Being thankful for this gift/opportunity called LIFE!

Like I said earlier, am feeling very grateful to God today.. Not that I don’t give gratitude to him every single day. I do. But today is different. Today is special. There’s this joy I feel from within. Maybe because tomorrow is my birthday… 

It’s been a very good year… A lot of ups and down but God saw my family and I through them all. When I tell people I have been through a lot, they wonder what exactly I mean. Most of us have our stories to tell and I guess today is my turn…. 

Am grateful to God for a lot of things…. Despite loosing my aunt, my grandmother, my uncle, my precious dear little brother (didn’t all die the same year). There was a time every year someone died but thank God it’s all over. It was scary, in fact at a point our faith was shaken. I know we served God as a family. I wouldn’t just say served God we are strong Christians, especially my mum. My brothers case was the worse. I remember nights and nights of mid night prayers, days of fasting, seed sowing and yet……. But am still grateful… Am grateful to God for the failed relationship, disappointment and heart break I went through. Am grateful to God for becoming who I am.. I am grateful to God for Nnamdi Ofoegbu (I can’t explain or quantify what you did and continue to do for me.  

Last year towards the end of the year, around this period. I started hearing voices telling me I would die.. I refused telling my parents because  I didn’t want them to worry. I was scared to leave the house, I was constantly sad, I felt every good bye was the last. Did I pray? Yes I did. I couldn’t let the devil take control. Finally my mum found out and joined me in prayers…. And I survived.. Yes am still alive and would continue as long as God wishes… 

Am grateful to God for the gift of life, am grateful for my family, am grateful for where I am today. Am grateful for his grace, his love and his mercy. I am grateful for friends and family. For every single person I have come across in life and has created an impact (positive and negative). Am grateful to God for the vision of “More to Life” because I know he has a reason for it…. 

Am super grateful for tomorrow….It’s going to be my birthday… Even if I wished I was going to be married before my birthday (can’t stop laughing), am still grateful. 

Let’s talk about you…. What are you so grateful for? It’s time to say out loud and share with us what are you so grateful for? 

It’s all about you………Never forget that. 



References 

Www.medium.com 

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